Did anyone's masking unconsciously just stop happening after adult diagnosis?

Hi everyone,

This is my very first post here on the forum!

I was officially diagnosed with autism last Monday, I knew I was, but there was something around to official diagnosis that changed me. 

I have been consciously trying to continue to mask at work, people would normally see me as a bubbly, outgoing, confident individual and I didn't intend to let my work "mask" slip any time soon. However, I find myself being more blunt when answering things, and being more reserved when I would normally be super involved in group meetings. To the point where my colleagues joke about me being quiet "for once" and wondering if something is up.

I actually didn't even know I was doing anything different, I thought I just had nothing to say on the topics being discussed, but I don't really feel ready at all to discuss this with my peers or boss (even if I ever do!)

Just wondering what everyone else's experience is like with this? I have heard a lot about learning to unmask but I just haven't gotten that far yet given it is really new for me.

Thank you

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  • No. My ability to socialise is just part of who I am. It exhausts me if I have to do it too much, or with too many people at once, but not otherwise. I still find awkward silences more distressing than engaging in small talk.

    The concept of 'unmasking' is of no practical use to me. If I tried to unmask, and I have no idea how, I suspect that I would be less myself, rather than more.

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  • No. My ability to socialise is just part of who I am. It exhausts me if I have to do it too much, or with too many people at once, but not otherwise. I still find awkward silences more distressing than engaging in small talk.

    The concept of 'unmasking' is of no practical use to me. If I tried to unmask, and I have no idea how, I suspect that I would be less myself, rather than more.

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