Little bit of back story but my mother in the 60s had a child as a teenager and due to the era was forced to put him up for adoption. He got in touch around 9 years ago after my mother had passed and my father was furious (traditional and hated the idea of kids born out of wedlock) but as I was in my 20s at the time I decided to go ahead and reach out.
Fast forward 9 years and we are due to meet for the first time this weekend. To say I had a difficult relationship with my mother is an understatement and in her later years as her mobility declined she became mentally abusive and led my kind loving father down the path of drink and he became a horrible person.
My half brother wants a relationship which is obvious as he wants to get me and my partner gig tickets and I've been chatting to him and his wife on socials too. I just don't know how to even begin to approach this situation. He was born in '66 and I was born in '86 so there are a good 20 years not to mention the fact although I was aware he existed, until a few years ago I knew he was out there but had no contact.
How do I even approach this? Let alone with the normal awkwardness of meeting people being autistic, I'm just so nervous and worried because he may have expectations of a loving mother but she just couldn't cope as a parent and my dad did most of the raising. Not to mention I was raised as an only child!
Any advice please?