Interesting question. In my single days I never had the confidence to talk to women who were considered typically beautiful. I guess it scared me a lot. I found myself a lot more comfortable around girls that other guys didnt pay as much attention to. Not because I thought they were less attractive at all but because they seemed more down to earth and nicer than the girls who were getting showered in male attention and therefore less intimidating
Also I always was attracted to girls that the other guys I hung out with wernt attracted to. I never understood why they were so quick to judge on appearance
First, I think it's important to say, beauty is subjective, and this is about you interacting with people you find attractive. Because you find them attractive your probably massively overthinking things, wanting them to like, and all of sudden your putting a lot of pressure on yourself, and making something that many on the spectrum fine hard feel almost impossible. At the end of the day they are just like everyone else and it's to important to remember that rather then obsessing in your head over whether they like you and a hypothetical future together. Took me a long time to learn that, but once you manage that then you just have to over come everything else that comes with interacting with people.
no, i just have a bad time talking to anyone in general until the thick layer of ice is broke and i got comfy with them. even then i dont talk as i havent much to talk about so it only perhaps modifys how daft and weird i am around them i guess.
Women cannot control their external beauty- and sometimes the autistic ones would rather have a conversation with you than a NT who is domineering.
Find a beautiful thing and learn to embrace it. The problem is we can find anyone beautiful the long we invest in them and the more they feel they can entrust their vulnerabilities with us.
More painful than terrifying for me. I am very visual and too extreme a beauty in anything can feel painful to me. Ugliness can have similarly extreme effects; seeing a particular Jackson Pollock painting made me feel very nauseous, I had to move away from it very quickly, eyes averted.
The rest of the world (all genders) is better looking than me, so every conversation I’m required to have is one where I’m broadcasting a telepathic apology at all times for what they’re having to endure. Going across the front door some days can be terrifying some days. But the bills don’t get paid if I don’t
️ I'm a woman but I get terrified talking to people, both genders straight away. Talking isn't so easy for me.
