• Replies 20 replies
  • Subscribers 92 subscribers
  • Views 2504 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

What's so important or special about social interactions anyway?

Cece

Hi,

Ever since I can remember, I have always had a dream of being super rich so I can buy my own island!

I want to have my own island, big enough for a house and for leg room and beautiful landscape and a landing area for a helicopter, that's it.

This "dream" doubles up as my happy place if I need to escape or zone out for whatever reason.

It has no people or social interactions of any kind, the idea of not even having to talk and completely rely on picking fruits etc for sustenance is incredibly relaxing to me.

I know it is unrealistic, hence the helicopter backup to keep me grounded but I can't help but often wonder about the big deal of social interactions.

Why is it assumed that humans are social creatures and that any AS individual that doesn't agree is mistaken and either have to mask/fake it or be outcast?

Why isn't the truth for humans NOT to be social and those wanting it are the odd ones out that rely on a third party to exist or feel better about themselves rather than be self sufficient?

I'm curious what the community thinks if this.

Thanks

Parents

  • I have a lot of fantasies about waking up I've day to find everyone other than me has died, and then living out the rest of my life scavenging dried/tinned food from supermarkets and enjoying the peace and quiet. When I share this with NTs they say they'd rather kill themselves than live like that, which I don't understand. Like I get that you'd eventually want to have a plan to take yourself out so you don't have to suffer through untreated cancer or whatever, but I don't see why you wouldn't live happily alone for a couple of decades first.

  • in reply to HP35

    I used to have similar fantasies, but I realise now I was in a bad place and didn't think anything could get better. The choices seemed to be either me dying (which I also fantasised about) or everyone else dying or vanishing. Now I fantasise about being able to connect with other people the way I would like.

Reply
  • in reply to HP35

    I used to have similar fantasies, but I realise now I was in a bad place and didn't think anything could get better. The choices seemed to be either me dying (which I also fantasised about) or everyone else dying or vanishing. Now I fantasise about being able to connect with other people the way I would like.

Children
  • in reply to Luftmentsch

    Interestingly, my mental health is the best it's ever been. I haven't had a meltdown in months and I feel pretty happy and stable on a day to day basis. I experience a lot of joy, mostly when walking alone in nature, although I also have an active social life I enjoy. I still think an empty world would be nice..