Trans and autistic?

Totally understand and relate with you 

well technically its you not accepting the way you turned out and wanting to change it lol 

Not on any new hormones, but very much relate to being angry about being repressed for so long. If a parent would say "we don't care if it's a boy or a girl as long as it's healthy and happy" then they don't get to put terms and conditions on that now or in that kid's future. So the anger is very much a grief stage from being lied to, told you are loved unconditionally but then finding out that isn't actually the case, because then you lose people you thought you knew, and they've been replaced by hypocrites who failed the responsibility they placed upon themselves of accepting you "whichever way you turn out".

Don't worry it gets better tho.

Hey ELMD72

My partner was male for most of 'his' life, until 'he' started coming out to people in February.

I knew around October time, but didn't want to say anything about it as it was for her to come out by herself - and I am damned proud of her for doing so. She is going to go all the way, but, like a lot of medical things - this is going to take a few years before anything does happen.

I am female myself, but I tend to be more 'tom-boyish' in my clothing style - I very rarely wear dresses/make up etc.

My partner actually can't wait to start wearing dresses and more feminine clothing - she has started wearing stuff discreetly, but as from her birthday, she's going to come out a lot more

Well done yourself on being more open about your own transgender journey - I wish you all the best and I'm sure my partner does too

Mweekie xx

I identify as non-binary / agender / transmasculine depending on the day. I doubt I could navigate the healthcare system well enough to access testosterone but I have put myself on medication to stop my periods which alleviates most of my dysphoria. I used to have a lot of anger, but the more authentically I live the less it flairs up. Cutting out toxic people helps too.

Thanks everyone. Really appreciate your support 

Agreed

And to add … I know quite a number of trans people well, mostly trans women but one trans guy. He had a terrible time through childhood, was bullied, all sorts of family problems , then body dysmorphic , then PDA, and then diagnosed bipolar, what a shitstorm, but he found support in the pride community, understood his truth, is accessing testosterone as you are and is on the long journey to surgery - I am rooting for him every step of the way. It takes huge courage to do what you are doing, pride isn’t a cliché, it is the reality for those on this journey - BE PROUD of yourself xxx

To add to the previous comments, I hope you will connect with those in your community who are facing similar challenges, I know from friends of mine how valuable their LGBTQ+ community friends are to their development. Judging by the statistics, there will be many who may directly connect to your experience there.

Wishing you all the best, keep your head up high, you are as normal as anyone else on this earth so look to nature, your spirit and the arts, I hope you find solace there

Well done on having the courage to be open about your journey, I back you 100%. It is a hard, very hard thing to come to terms with the gender and sexuality issues alone, then add in autism it’s multiply difficult, so huge positivity coming from me to you 

Emma

Hi, welcome to the community :) 
I'm afab non-binary and not yet sure how much I have/possibly still mask. I don't fit society's expectations/misconceptions of what an autistic person 'looks like' though, and had to keep my gender and sexuality from my family for several years.

You're not alone - living in these intersections can be complex, but if you find the right people it can also be really beautiful. Good luck on the road - sounds like you're dealing with a lot and I hope you find what you're looking for in this community.