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Manipulating Behaviour

NAS80814

Hi all

I'm often told I overthink situations and this leads to me doubting myself. 

Apologies about the length of the question. 

Recently my partner who I don't stay with mentioned in a morning time about us not spending that night together as we were sleeping in separate rooms due to my snoring and also I hadn't been back to my place in a extended time so heating hadn't been on etc

I declined this due to me wanting to spend time with my partner, it seemed like a weak reasoning at the time 

We then proceeded on a day trip via train. 

A couple of hours later my partner mentions about messaging a friend who they know is often in the city we visited. 

I don't get on with this friend, we have zero in common but I want to support my partner in her friends so I said ok. 

This turned into a extended drinking session with my partner and this friend with me sober, I'm teetotal. My anxiety was through the roof, my partner had to go the toilet or for a cigarette and I would be left with the friend and it was so awkward. 

My partner getsWinkpretty wasted and I have to look after them , make sure they get home safe etc

After thinking about things I have convinced myself that this was the plan all along, however I have yet to confront my partner about this. I'm convinced my partner messaged their friend prior to us leaving the house. 

I can't recall who's idea it was to go into the city. 

From the conversation in the morning where my partner was trying to get rid of me at night time. 

To head into a part of the city my partners friend frequents. 

Even if it wasn't the plan I feel a bit used by the situation, part of me accepts that part of being in a relationship is to look out for each other but another part feels that my partner allowed themselves to get so drunk because they knew I would look after them. 

Literally getting them to the train, on the train and off at right stop, drove home, undressed and into bed. 

Im so confused by the whole situation, it turned a fun day out with my partner into a horrible situation and my head is running wild trying to put the pieces together.