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No idea where my life is going...

Zazious

Hi,

I'm almost 27 and my life seems to be going nowhere. I also have nothing to show for my life. I tried working multiple times, each time I failed miserably, either extreme anxiety or my mental health broke down and I had to go to hospital for a couple of months. I have no friends, I can't talk to people, never have a clue what to say or how to be with people. I have my family. They are supportive and great. But they're getting older, and their health is beginning to fall. I worry about what will happen when they're gone. What I'll do. Where I'll go and how I will cope. I'm not entirely sure I'll be able to cope, not sure what to do regarding this.

I just wish my life had some direction. But it's going nowhere and I don't seem able to change this.

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  • you sound like your on the right path already. just dont let people soothe you or think its ok....

    i was in your position a year or 2 back... i was 32, i had jobs and never liked them or could fit in, they was boring and ***, i didnt have any friends or social life. i was in my room constantly day by day thinking along those lines of thought, what will i do, where will i go, my parents are getting on and every day is a potential risk of losing them and id be homeless. i started to think on that and make all sorts of weird little plans from buying camping gear to make being homeless doable and for me to be prepared for it, i wouldnt be a type that slumps in the town center on the cold, id go into the woods with camping gear and a tent if that happened, then i upgraded my plans to the idea of buying a cheap 3k cost yacht and had just enough money due to welfare savings. then i invested a chunk into bitcoin and made a large amount off it large enough to get a bigger yacht maybe or maybe the same yacht and have savings to affordf stuff... but by then i was also in a depressive mood being crushed by no friends or contact and also still my mind screamed out what are you going to do constantly in my mind that i finally broke and my mind forced me to actually legit seek a job and try to keep it..... i got a job, i still have it to this day, my money i made on crypto went to a property desposit and i live in my own place, my job fully funds my life and pays everything off with plenty to save up so again i can save up and make enough savings incase even this falls through somehow.

    tldr.... let your mind agonise, its a good thing.... do not let people lull you into accepting your position, your mind should agonise over it and in that it finds a way and self pushes you into the way that will work out. i never thought id get a job, i was so against the idea of work and how it dominates life and is boring, but it comes to a point your mind agonises and tortures you and finds many reasons to eventually self push yourself into doing this thing you didnt like or want to do or thought you couldnt do. it makes you do it as that is the fix.. kinda like how if a kid doesnt get the minerals their body needs their mind forces them to instinctively start eating dirt that they wouldnt like but the mind takes over to try and force give the body what it thinks it needs. this is the same effect. so its important to not be lulled out of it, your mind is supposed to push you like this.

  • in reply to Caelus

    Thank you. This was helpful to read. I think I'll get to a point where it will all settle and fall in to place, might take a while, but I'm on my way to that. My mind is trying its best. I guess I'm not being very willing right now.

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