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Masking: are we any good at it?

Ben

Since re-reading Gilly Knitter's thread 'What does unmasking look like'  I've been a bit lost in thought........

Until two or three years ago I'd never come across the term 'masking', and upon hearing it immediately thought 'I do that'...  but now find myself wondering if I've been any good at it.

In everyday work and play I've never fitted in and am sure that others have noticed; in fact many have been abrupt and quite rude about it. So maybe I'm not as good at masking as I first thought..... or does the mask slip a little?

I really don't know.

Ben

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  • I had a good mask going (subconsciously) all my life. Two occasions where it slipped enough to be noted. One is when I opened up "was more myself" with another observant human being and the other was when I cracked or had an "Autistic burnout" but I didn't know it at the time, it just meant that my tolerance for maintaining a social persona went down to zero.

    Since knowing about masking and AS, I have been able to maintain it better, although I found that if anybody suspected it during that "brief down time", they were more observant and looking for it so it meant more effort to sustain it etc.

    Masking is part of my life as I am choosing not to share this with people.

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  • I had a good mask going (subconsciously) all my life. Two occasions where it slipped enough to be noted. One is when I opened up "was more myself" with another observant human being and the other was when I cracked or had an "Autistic burnout" but I didn't know it at the time, it just meant that my tolerance for maintaining a social persona went down to zero.

    Since knowing about masking and AS, I have been able to maintain it better, although I found that if anybody suspected it during that "brief down time", they were more observant and looking for it so it meant more effort to sustain it etc.

    Masking is part of my life as I am choosing not to share this with people.

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