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Finding love and dating with Autism and Trust issues

CaliforniaDreamer95

Despite what others might say and think about me, whether or not they think that I have Autism, at the end of the day, I just want a warm and loving relationship with someone who just loves and accepts me for who I am.

I have never experienced a romantic relationship (Been kissed) due to school and the workplaces in which I have been situated, where people have seemingly got on with me, they eventually turned against me for no explainable reason, I have a mistrust of people.

Has anyone else experienced this before?

  • in reply to cookie

    Im sorry to hear that your feeling like this Cookie. Thoughts and prayers with you. If you need someone to talk to there are lots of us here that can support you. Being lied to is very upsetting, I can understand how you feel about that 

  • I can sympathise, I've only been in one relationship and it was a bad none romantic, and manipulative one. It has made me no longer want a relationship since I'm afraid of letting myself be vulnerable to someone again and letting them know who I truly am.

    I've also experienced people turning against me for no reason (none have been kind enough to explain or identify what I've done wrong) and it has given me trust issues when making new friends/meeting new people since all I have is the thought 'how long will it be until they'll eventually turn against me?'. 

  • in reply to cookie

    Hi cookie @NAS78687, 

    Are you ok? The NAS website can help you with advice and guidance on a range of mental health topics. Here is the link: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health

    Wishing you all the best,

    Anna Mod

  • yes me i its not r felt it real upsets me when all i  am trying to do is make friends  i now have to leave my job because of people lying to me and doing the right things am getting upset right now i need help please  can someone 

  • I experience this mostly with friends but dating has always been different for me with being gay and attracted to older men, most experiences from online dating etc. 

    I have been hurt a lot by people so my trust is slowly coming back although I still struggle with from time to time as it shows it’s ugly face but it’s getting less and less. I’m with a guy now who understands me as much as he can, there are complications which leaves me thinking I would be better off alone but that’s a heck of a selfish thing to think. There’s not a lot of tactile things but the love is there with the both of us but it’s a struggle to say the least not to be touched or hugged. 

    I hope you find yours though.