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Am I being punished for having AS?

Mark

I looked at moving out. Which is something I want to do. But I can’t get a mortgage (I’ve been offered £100,000. What’s that gonna get me?)

I can’t get a council flat as I’m a single, childless, person in a full time job with no serious mental health/illness. Despite having AS.

I looked at renting. Within a price range and it triggered me. I’m poor. While at home I’m fine. But if I move out I’m poor. The places I looked are in pretty rough Areas. One flat I looked at had needles in the hallways. They smelt bad. There’s too much noise. 

im on the verge of having a breakdown. Everyone I know has moved out with a partner. Which I don’t have. But it would make things so much better. I feel like I’m being punished for having AS

I find it hard to make friends. I date but not very well (I’ve never had a boyfriend) im lucky I have a full time job but it doesn’t bring me job, im on minimum wage and I don’t do well in interviews. I just want my own place so I can feel safe but I can’t even get that. I overthink everything, I worry about too much and everyone feels so much more painful than it probably would if I didn’t have AS. 

I just don’t want to have this anymore. I can’t talk for other mental health issues but I feel like AS/Autism gets forgotten about so much. 
I feel like a child in a mans body Pensive

  • It's normal punishment for being closer to poverty or low-income. Everyone experiences it under a certain income bracket, sadly.

  • Hello @Mark

    I'm sorry to hear that you have been having a hard time. You may like to have a look at the mental health section of our website which has useful links to information and advice about a range of mental health issues: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health  

    If you feel that you might need some support with your mental health, you can find advice and information on how to go about seeking help, including links to other resources and details of helplines and listening support services, here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/seeking-help. 

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod

  • Mark said:
    I can’t get a council flat as I’m a single, childless, person in a full time job with no serious mental health/illness. Despite having AS.

    If you fall under a vulnerable group for whatever reason you should have some degree of priority but in my experience I only got pushed even higher up the list because in addition to being autistic I was in the middle of an event string already happening where the end result was invariably going to be becoming homeless again if the council didn't pick me up quick.
    It's less that you are being punished for being autistic and more that the council will A. not put you to tthe top of the list while you still have a home and are not in danger of being made homeless any time soon, and B. not put you at the top of the list if someone else homeless or about to be is in another category that makes them more vulnerable than you. this is because housing is in high demand and less availability and they do not have the funds to make more council housing to house everybody under austerity. We are all being punished for wanting to live under the current system it's not just you, but I understand your fustration.
    I have heard back in the day some people had a bit more success using an advocate, a friend of mine years ago got an advocate from Mind (I think it was) to write a letter on their behalf to press the issue with the council further. If that's still a service available somewhere maybe you can try that route.