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literal claustrophobic minded

openheart

I have problem with problems....

Say you have a problem, you investigate that problem for a solution, that solution involves you with another person in the equation, you approach that person and are fobbed off by there answer or redirected. This is were the problem becomes a new problem, I take what the person says literally and get stuck for the original solution and it stresses me out. It is like DO NOT PASS GO OR COLLECT £200 pounds (monopoly). I spend my time trying to work through the new problem the person has given me instead of relooking at the original problem or challenging what the second party said.

So instead of rejecting the second parties view outright by seeking clarification, I find my self stuck that what they say is totally correct by a literal thinking it must be. I forget the Nts can give false information, lie and block by words to save themselve work or hassle. I end up going round in a loop pressing the new buttons they have given me to work out. eg, you have speak to X or that is not this department, or sorry it is not our problem. etc etc. I suppose a bit like going to a garage and being told half your car needs replacing when you just went into get one tyre.

or in our case when a person goes to the doctor about Autism. Just because the GP can not be arsed, you take this words as literal(you don't have autism) and you go home and suffer.

I think the solution to this literal barriers, is first check with another third party, is the information you have been given correct before you action the second parties comment as literal.

So regardless what you are told, check it out that it is correct information. Literally check yourself or you may find yourself become literal minded claustrophobic(shut in a mental place).

 

 

  • Openheart, this is what happened with me and my eldest daughter.  When she was 8yo (she's now 12) I didn't know anything about ASC assessments and I asked the Ed Psych at school to assess her.  After a couple of observations in lessons by the school SENCo I met with them with my daughter present.  Despite me having reported a whole host of ASC traits and behaviours, they said they didn't believe she had AS as they hadn't withnessed any ASC behaviours in school.

    I accepted this.  I thought, this is what I have been told so as they are the experts, they must be right.

    I have a problem with either missing or not absorbing blocks of text in reports and letters.  So when I got the follow-up report, I somehow missed the little bit right at the very end that said if I still wanted to pursue an assessment to let them know.  I was so fixated on them saying they didn't believe she had it, anything else didn't go in.

    It wasn't until over time I learned a lot more myself about what an ASC assessment was, who did it, how it should be undertaken etc. and her AS behaviours persisted I eventually realised they had got it wrong.  I just stupidly accepted it because it didn't occur to me I could challenge their opinion and I had missed that little bit right at the end that said if I wanted to send her for assessment to let them know.  I think they do it cleverly, blind you with saying they don't think she has it for several pages to put you off.  An NT might have just persisted based on that last little bit, but I didn't because I fixated on all the rest.  And it was actually years later (when I was a lot more well-informed) that I re-read the report and realised my mistake.

    Like you say, check things out for yourself.  Professionals make mistakes, lie, have ulterior motives etc.