City Vs Country living

For me, it is the same reason I struggle in noisy or busy social environments, because I can't differentiate between a noise I need to focus on and all the others around. It's just a wall of hum and hiss.

Also, I think I perceive all noise and movement as a potential threat, so a city feels like a medieval warzone to my senses

not true. I like the city. I just wouldn't like to live in London. I spend most of my recreational time in the city centre of the 2 nearest cities.

I have to admit there are no votes for city!  Some for small town but a lot for countryside as you thought.

Pretty sure, without looking, 100% of the answer on here will say Countryside.

Visiting is different. But take it from me, after 10 years in London, a breakdown, Crohns disease developing, and a host of issues, dropping from a healthy 13 stone surfer, to an unhealthy 9 stone depressed mess... don't live in a big city unless you defo love it 

Never again

The issue was that once the river was out for the winter the water level in the fields would usually be quite a long way above wellie height. At least my family lived in a hill so the house didn't flood.

My preference is the countryside for sure. I love the freedom of having easy access on foot to open countryside, with only the sounds of nature for company.

However living in a village can make it difficult to disappear as much as I would like.

HP35 said:

I grew up in a village and disliked it. It always felt like there was a lot of attention on me.

I get this totally and it's how I am now. I grew up in a town and the only thing I miss about it is the anonymity.

I can tolerate towns and cities in small doses as a visitor. I love being able to walk around almost invisibly, not feeling expected to acknowledge or make eye contact with anyone. However I wouldn't go back to living in a town or city.

My long term dream is an isolated cottage in the country, far away from any neighbours. I'll have to win the lottery first though!

Thanks for replying, I also like listening to loud and fast electronic dance music sometimes but true silence can be lovely if i can find it. 

I like peace and quiet and time in the countryside or even just a green space resets and refreshes me. However I prefer to live in a town. I like the convenience of everything and feel more secure knowing that there are people there even though I would rather not be too aware of their existence. For you it may be that the bustle of a city provides a stimulus that you need. For me it was loud music and dancing all night. Otherwise I hate crowds, noise, lights, loudspeakers in supermarkets etc. Some environments are the right stimulus for our autistic brains and the city might be yours.

Thanks, I find I need both too.

I need both, I really like the ambiguity of the city life, and I can get by with a good set of headphones to keep out offensive noises.,    
I need  time in the countryside, it’s make me feel small . We’re quite lucky in the UK, even if you live in a big city your never more than 30 minute’s travelling time to somewhere green.

I prefer a medium sized town. Smaller towns have less amenities although people are probably more friendly. I like where I currently live as it is on the edge of the town so I can walk in green areas and tree lined paths. Behind our garden is a school field so we are not overlooked and we get plenty of birdlife.

Before I had a child I enjoyed holidays in the country. One particular one had a field of sheep behind the place we stayed. As for cities I have no longing to revisit them. London in particular is too busy and built up.

Countryside for me. I like the house where i'm living now but the area is a bit rough so i'm hoping to move to a more rural location in the near future 

It was planned to be that way, by the Nihilists who want to destroy society from within. 

Yep, the South/South East is getting pretty crowded, especially in the towns.

I like the edge of small towns. Where I am there is c1000 acers of open land, most of it MoD. I despise London and all big cities, it is just too overwhelming.We have a plan to move from Hampshire to the , cheap, wide open spaces of Lincolnshire in a couple of years. I just love the big skies there and the sense of space.

I'd really rather just not, having to share public transport is a nightmare and walking where there are crowds of strangers is equally bad. I really only cope with strangers in groups of 4 or less per an approx measure of X sqr ft where X is a variable that relies on lower noise volume and general activity to increase that population per area.
Cities are also bad value for money in general and it's not just the manner of the people that make it worse, but that the same people will still be people making noise and being the most dangerous creature to a human being which is another human being, regardless of manners because people who scam you will be nice as pie to your face anyway, and it doesn't make them actually nice people.... So even if people were polite 9/10 of my issue with cities isn't something that can be mitigated... Unless I wake up in the position of the main character of The Day of the Triffids.

Imo I have plenty of mid size towns capable of providing anything I'd ever want from a city,  for half the price and a quarter of the hassle.
I only go in a big city now if I have a large buffer of close friends to deal with people and pay for things, like if it's their treat they can pick any location they want, but I'll never go into a city bigger than say Winchester by choice. It's no good having a "day out" just to have a bad time.

London is my nearest proper big city so I tend to go there for the museums etc.  I also like the general background hum of the city.

I haven't done a lot of travelling recently but last week drove 500+ miles up to Scotland stopping a few times.  I want to do it again but stop for longer each time.  I love just hearing the different accents for one but yes, people tend to be more immediately open.  Us southeners will open up but you need to know us for a few years first!

Go to Yorkshire. The people in the city’s are chatty. They will answer questions mostly in a friendly way. They are also outspoken. You’ll hear people arguing politics with strangers at bus stops from time to time. 

Northern  cities are much different than in the south.

I don’t like london. It’s the crowds more than the noise. I like personal space. The countryside is largely boring. Sure to visit  on a sunny day for an hour or two is nice but I wouldn’t want to live there. The activity of the city suits me better. The noise is even comforting sometimes. Just so long as I don’t have to ride on a bus / train packed like sardines or elbow my way down the street the city is great … just not ones as crowded as london.