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So I only found out I was autistic about 2-years ago go and since then I have learnt a lot about myself.

One thing I found out that I cannot work all day. I couldn't last in school and even days when I'm not doing anything I have to sleep in the afternoon to recharge. 

It's not that I don't want to work full time but I physically mentally and emotionally just can't. But no one seems to understand this as I'm currently looking for a new job I'm constantly asked why I'm looking for part-time why are all the jobs that I'm applying for his part time and even though I have explained myself especially my mum doesn't understand and and kind of employees that im being over dramatic or lazy.

And now every time I do have an interview and I explain that I can't do all days and my compromises I feel really ashamed of myself and maybe I am just being lazy and overdramatic but deep down I know no I cannot have a full time job and I just need some support with that.

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  • It can be exhausting masking and sensory processing. But maybe there is something else going on too, have you been to the GP to have this checked out? If there is it might be treatable, or at least would give you some reason employers and your mother might accept. It's horrible to be called lazy when you are probably trying harder than a normal person!

  • in reply to AuTriker
    AuTriker said:
    It's horrible to be called lazy when you are probably trying harder than a normal person!

    NT's simply cannot appreciate just how much effort and application is required at times to secure completion and delivery of my work.  It is SO frustrating, because that same work is normally completed in my head SO rapidly.....it's the "trying to record and communicate what I know to NT's that is one of my main (non-pathological) challenges.

    Being called lazy is a MAJOR trigger for me.

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    It's a trigger for me too. I guess I can sometimes be lazy, but I think I know the difference between being lazy and struggling hard to achieve less than the effort deserves, (which sometimes make me highly reluctant to try and thus I procrastinate, which can make me think I am lazy, but that is different as well. Another thing which is different is finding it hard to start something, even a thing I enjoy once started and then find hard to stop doing until finished, like my language homework!)

    I like to use the analogy of my trike, which is heavy and recumbent with small wheels with knobbly tyres, so I have a lower power to weight ratio and much higher rolling resistance than my cycling companions so I have to work a lot harder on hill climbs and am much slower. But if I had a power meter it would show how much more effort I am putting in to get up that hill! I usually don't mind too much as it means I am getting more exercise value out of the same ride than they are! And at least nobody is accusing me of being lazy for cycling so slowly up a hill.

    Now I know I am AuDHD it is useful for me to know that my brain is much like my trike, great at some things but harder work for others.

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    Thanks, yes we do seem to have similarities.

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    I love an analogy. I see it as like a DIY "bake off" type show. Right everyone! Make a shelf from wood! Most people get on with it and know how to use the tools. Some don't and fudge their way through it and observe others on how to do it. Right times up! All the shelves finished look about the same. Everyone gets congratulated the same. No one knows the extra effort that some people put into their shelves because they all look pretty much the same.

    A bit off piste on the OP but oh well.

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    I love an analogy. I see it as like a DIY "bake off" type show. Right everyone! Make a shelf from wood! Most people get on with it and know how to use the tools. Some don't and fudge their way through it and observe others on how to do it. Right times up! All the shelves finished look about the same. Everyone gets congratulated the same. No one knows the extra effort that some people put into their shelves because they all look pretty much the same.

    A bit off piste on the OP but oh well.

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