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Just diagnosed yesterday.

Morganna Le Faye

Hi,

Yesterday I was diagnosed with level 1 autism spectum.  I'm 45. Female.  And although the diagnosis doesn't suprise me - I had figured it out, and took myself for testing.   I find myself sad for my younger self, and frankly angry at all those folks who could, and perhaps should, have spotted something when I was a child. I have just one life, and I've spent 45 years feeling that I was somehow failing, when all I needed was someone to recognise neurodivergence. 

Anyone else feel this way?

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  • We are of the generation of the great under diagnosed, our parents generation being the great undiagnosed, and I think rather than behaviours going unnoticed, they simply weren't understood. I sometimes wonder what, if anything, the support would have been like had I been diagnosed as a child, but I also wonder if it actually would have made my life better. An observation I have made about the younger (diagnosed) ND generation is that although they are wonderfully unapologetic of their behaviours, they also make little to no effort to accommodate those around them. I feel like, as with everything, their challenges will be different, but not necessarily better than those of us who are older.

    I have a 20 year old friend who has ADHD, and they struggle hugely with not having been able to find a romantic relationship. They also make no attempt to modify their "all about me" approach to life. For me there is a very clear link there...

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  • We are of the generation of the great under diagnosed, our parents generation being the great undiagnosed, and I think rather than behaviours going unnoticed, they simply weren't understood. I sometimes wonder what, if anything, the support would have been like had I been diagnosed as a child, but I also wonder if it actually would have made my life better. An observation I have made about the younger (diagnosed) ND generation is that although they are wonderfully unapologetic of their behaviours, they also make little to no effort to accommodate those around them. I feel like, as with everything, their challenges will be different, but not necessarily better than those of us who are older.

    I have a 20 year old friend who has ADHD, and they struggle hugely with not having been able to find a romantic relationship. They also make no attempt to modify their "all about me" approach to life. For me there is a very clear link there...

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