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Cleaning and tidying

Vicky

Hi, I’m new here and hoping for some help and advice!

Basically, I don’t trust anyone to clean my house and I don’t like people touching my stuff.  I have a baby and my partner I think is messy (although he doesn’t).

I don’t like cleaning myself and I don’t really have the time to do much anyway.  But I don’t want anyone to do it because I don’t trust them to do it properly, I think there will be chemicals everywhere and especially the smells, and people will touch my things.

Is any of this sounding familiar??  I don’t want to feel like this, it’s so stressful.

  • It sounds like you're dealing with a challenging situation. It's completely understandable to want your home cleaned to your standards, especially with a baby and a messy partner.
    Have you considered hiring professional cleaners? They can use gentle, eco-friendly products and follow your instructions closely to ensure your belongings are respected. Commercial office cleaning specialists like North Kent Cleaning Services might be a good fit. They can tailor their services to meet your needs and give you peace of mind.
    Remember, it's okay to ask for help, and finding a cleaning solution that works for you can reduce your stress levels.

  • Oh I totally understand you!  I do have a cleaner who comes once a week as I don't have the time to do it, but it drives me nuts.  I have to tidy up before she comes and then afterwards go around a fix all the stuff she has MOVED.   For no good reason, she just moves stuff!! 

    But I have tried to re-focus on the fact that overall net impact she has is positive.   The place feels and looks much better afterwards, and so if there are few things to be put back in place, that's ok, it is worth it.  

  • in reply to Jay

    When I was very young, my Mum used to have a nun come once a week to help with cleaning and once I had to throw out stuff out of my room that I wanted to keep because the nun said so - when I tried to protest the nun firmly slapped my wrist and threw them out anyway - when my Dad heard, I got a good hiding that night and was sent to bed with no supper and from that point on, I was closely watched to make sure that I was not hoarding “rubbish and dirt” as you only went to bed to sleep, access to everything was all through my room, toilet, heating, attic etc and every week, everything had to be thrown out, if I tried to object, I was slapped hard by Dad, as he believed that giving children a hard life with enforced poverty created strong adults, in the days when corporal punishment by parents in Ireland was normal 

  • I’m not sure bout how to deal with someone touching your stuff but a lot of cleaners these days will be used to people wanting to avoid chemicals. This is also a common worry with small babies around the house so they won’t be surprised i think. 

    We had a cleaner when my daughter was young and she would use our stuff to clean with rather than bring in industrial bleach etc. Although that’s what our house needs right now!!

  • I live on my own (many people do not approve of this since my diagnosis) but I’m terribly lazy long before my diagnosis when in supermarkets and my new hotel job 

  • in reply to Steven

    I don’t like having wet hands!  I like baths and swimming though…

  • Yes, at least some of it is familiar (I think): e.g. when speaking to others, I sometimes describe strong smells as 'high-pitched' but they don't understand. I don't like having liquid on my hands either.