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I have a very rigid right or wrong mindset.., I can't seem to give any ground on compromise. I dig in and get stressed out like hell.

I think the middle ground is an agreement, but I can not bargain, I see it as wrong as the moral high ground I take is too high, so people always say you are right with y but you should do x ,, I am confused, I can't let go of a position of principle and it stresses the hell out of me, I wish I could just say "f..... it ! " but I can not for some reason,. must be my autism, but it means I am always in conflict with the world, I win the fights but it knocks the stuffing out of me emotionally and need days for recovery.

Any advice on conflict resolutions for apsies ?

  • I have a similar problem,  especially where the moral high ground is too high. I hold that position and expect everyone else to have the same understanding or expectation and I end up being aggreived and upset/heartbroken when people I care about hold a different view.  It's very hard to compromise, the only tool in my box is to let go, but it makes me feel weak and vulnerable when I do so.