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friendoffelines

Having watched Chris Packham's documentary, and then Googled femail traits, at the grand old age of 61, everything that I have been through throughout my life, finally made complete sense.

I am a highly effective and very focused person, but have always seen everything in black and white. I can't take loud noises, and have to put my hands over my ears with certain adverts on the telly (Barclays bank with the horses and pot noodles with the donkey!) as it shatters my equilibrium. I have spent my entire life unwittingly upsetting everybody by being too direct, and not understanding why I'm being persecuted when I'm trying to help and be clear....

Now I know. Thank God I know. That documentary has changed my life. I have looked up the traits, and am a text book case. I don't need a diagnosis.

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  • Good morning.

    Isn't it a lovely feeling.....to finally understand what has made you rather "other" all of your life....and to know that it isn't - just you?  

    From what you have written above, you report no real impairments and you have navigated your life successfully without the knowledge......so I am a little curious.......why has the documentary "changed your life?"  What are you expecting to happen now that wasn't happening before?

    Anyway - that's just my curious brain wishing to understand things that are none of my business - so forgive me.

    Welcome to this place.

    Kind regards

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Good  morning...Yes, it is!  I have just got back from swimming and told the 2 women I swim with that I'm autistic and both of them laughed and said "we could have told you that!" I was amazed, as it never occured to me.

    I have navigated some areas of my life successfully, but haven't managed any long term romantic relationships. I am SO black and white - I call it clear thinking, that I despair of other people's woolly thinking. I unwittingly upset most people I speak to daily, and am accused DAILY of being rude and abrupt, when I think I'm just being factual and concise. I have never worked for anyone as I wouldn't last 2 minutes (!) so started my own business where I can do things my way.

    The documentary has made sense of how I am, and I feel comfortable explaining to some of the key people who find it difficult having to deal with me regularly why I'm like this, and ask that they forgive me for unintentionally upsetting them, and ask that they cut me a little slack in the future if I seem abrupt.

    Every night when I get home, I feel crushed and bruised from having fought throughout the day, trying to get things done and achieved with everyone seeming to make it really hard for me. I will now to try and be kinder to myself, and help anyone who is struggling with autism.

    Hope that has sasified your curiosity! thank you for being curious

  • in reply to friendoffelines

    So glad you have found yourself, I had the same experience with my two friends, they both separately just said,” I thought you was.” They both then told be they are autistic, we seem to know when we are with our own. When you’re ready, there is a good program on Channel 4 catch-up called, ‘ Are you Autistic?’ The woman in it who goes through diagnosis is so relatable to. She starts by sitting in a group of her friends at a pottery class, the chat is just inane, you see her head is about to explode. My wife has often said that my social filters weren’t fitted at the factory!

  • in reply to Roy

    I will watch it if I can find someone to get in on the box for me....I am phobic about tech and can't believe I managed to do this. Your social filters not being set at the factory made me laugh!

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