I do not know if this will chime with anyone else's experience. I tend to be non-judgmental of people, unless they do something extraordinarily good or bad, and just take them as they are. However, if a third party passes a comment, such as, "She is snide", or, "He is really tight with his money", I then see everything that person does through the lens of the comment. I really resent that this happens, and much prefer having my non-judgment left intact.