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Monotropic thoughts?

sphynx

Hi everyone, 
I've struggled for years with constellations of persistent thoughts centred around particular topics. They're often unhealthy - for example when they're focused for weeeks around particular people I really care about who can and will never feel the same way about me. At times these thoughts stop me from focusing on other things that need my attention, because I can't shift my mind from its topic. Is this monotropism? I'm wondering if anyone here has found strategies that have helped with shifting the 'stuckness' of the thoughts? Thanks in advance for any ideas.

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  • It’s problem solving. It’s what makes so many autistic people great mathematicians engineers and coders. The inability to let go of problems in need of solutions. You love her and she doesn’t love you. That hurts. That’s painful for everyone autistic or otherwise. But it also presents itself in the form of a problem. One your autistic brain cannot disengage from. The difficulty of the autistic brain in disengaging is a huge strength but it comes with a cost.

    At  times like these life feels like slamming your head against a brick wall. I like to remind my self one day either the wall will break or your head will. Either way the problem is solved.

  • in reply to Peter

    Thanks Peter. Sadly I'm not a mathematician, engineer or coder - I wish that was how my monotropism manifested rather than this cognitive clinginess to people! But I totally get your point. You're right, it is painful for anyone not to have their love reciprocated. It lasted years with one person though, and has just started happening with another, so I'm apprehensive this could become a constant cycle in my life, (or a very hard wall that ends up breaking my head, I guess)

  • in reply to sphynx

    I've had similar love issues. Likewise, I'm not a mathematician engineer or coder and have struggled to find a career that suits my own skills.

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