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Monotropic thoughts?

sphynx

Hi everyone, 
I've struggled for years with constellations of persistent thoughts centred around particular topics. They're often unhealthy - for example when they're focused for weeeks around particular people I really care about who can and will never feel the same way about me. At times these thoughts stop me from focusing on other things that need my attention, because I can't shift my mind from its topic. Is this monotropism? I'm wondering if anyone here has found strategies that have helped with shifting the 'stuckness' of the thoughts? Thanks in advance for any ideas.

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  • in reply to sphynx

    don't be sorry. you did nothing wrong

    it's another thing we do to comply, fawning as part of masking

    btw I made a joke for the 'sorry people', to un-teach them abusing that word, when they use it instead of 'excuse me'.

    I say: 

    Hi. I don't see you doing anything wrong, why are you sorry?

    Before they answer I continue:

    But you know in case you have guilty conscience I'll have to dissapoint you. I'm not autorised to give you absolution. You need to find yourself a priest !!!

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