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Monotropic thoughts?

sphynx

Hi everyone, 
I've struggled for years with constellations of persistent thoughts centred around particular topics. They're often unhealthy - for example when they're focused for weeeks around particular people I really care about who can and will never feel the same way about me. At times these thoughts stop me from focusing on other things that need my attention, because I can't shift my mind from its topic. Is this monotropism? I'm wondering if anyone here has found strategies that have helped with shifting the 'stuckness' of the thoughts? Thanks in advance for any ideas.

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  • I've experienced the same things myself.  Wjat helps me us indulging my focussed interests.  They are the only thing that absorbs me enough to take me away from that unhealthy fixations.

    And sometimes I just let myself go through the thoughts, knowing that they are transient and don't signify as much as they feel like they do at the time.

  • in reply to Glitter

    Letting the thoughts be there and recognising their transience is wise advice. For me though, they tend to be fixated enough for this to feel very hard to grasp.
    Immersing your mind in interests - that makes sense too. One of mine at the moment is complex trauma which, while it's deeply meaningful on many levels and has a kind of urgency for me right now, isn't always the best distraction. But it can help to redirect attention there. Sadly that's not always an option though :( 

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  • in reply to Glitter

    Letting the thoughts be there and recognising their transience is wise advice. For me though, they tend to be fixated enough for this to feel very hard to grasp.
    Immersing your mind in interests - that makes sense too. One of mine at the moment is complex trauma which, while it's deeply meaningful on many levels and has a kind of urgency for me right now, isn't always the best distraction. But it can help to redirect attention there. Sadly that's not always an option though :( 

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