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WOW! Everyone missed the point of my last post

Billy87

WOW! So I start a thread saying there are too many arguements on here these days and it runs to a 47 comment arguement! I don't think people really got my point so I will make a few points

First of all I don't feel this is the place to discuss political issues. I don't want debates on where trans people should go to prison or the BLM movement or any of that stuff on here. I think this is a safe space for people who are fed up of the NT world argueing about the "issues". However, I also feel there are a lot of people on here now who are just waiting to pounce on anyone who expresses an opinion different from there's, demanding they apologise and telling them they are not allowed their opinions. This restriction of free speech is something else I come here to escape from

This forum is neither The Guardian or the Daily Mail. It is a safe space for battered and bruised autistic people to come and take a break from the horrible, arguementative NT world and just heal and support each other. If you want to debate issues or cancel people or get angry with each other go on Twitter please! 

For the record I think this what's going on and I'm going to calmly explain it to everyone who is getting themselves worked up. I think there are two types of autistic people on this forum. One is the sort that feels at odds with the world, especially all the changes that have occured in modern society, and feels, quite understandably, that people with traditional views and opinions are not welcomed anymore and due to political correctness people aren't able to freely express their opinions anymore. These people come here thinking it will be a safe space to be their autistic selves and then feel very hurt and rejected when they find that even here they are threatened with being cancelled and forced to apologise for how they feel and who they are

Secondly, we have people who have probably faced a lot of prejudice in their lives and been through expeeriences we can't even imagine so they, again very understandably, are easily triggered by certain opinions and subjects and so react very passionately when certain topics are discussed and when they feel their identity is being questioned.

These two groups of people have completely different life experiences and perspectives but they are both valid autistic people with valid autistic experiences.

I dont know how they get on with each other, maybe just ignore each other I dont know

Anyway I have wasted my whole morning reading through the comments on my post and typing this. This forum saved my life and I don't know what I would do without being able to run and hide here at the end of the day but lately it is becoming like Twitter and Twitter is the thing that shreds my mental health the most.

So I am going to take a break from the forum for my own mental health! Thank you to everyone who has ever supported me on here and I will be back when people learn how to be civil to each other and stop behaving like NT's on social media 

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  • I know you meant well there Billy but you’ve inadvertently said this: 

    ‘im the only truly neurodivergent person on here, and the only adult. When you children learn to behave I might be back.’ 

    To a forum full of people with imposter syndrome and other issues to cope with, that’s not entirely fair. I do wish you well, and I’ll miss you. Your post does seem out of character so you’re not in a good place clearly and I hope that improves. 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Im sorry you feel that way but that is a really unfair misrepresentation of what I said.

    I made a very valid point that a lot of the debates and arguements on here lately resemble those on Twitter and that myself and many others have come here precisely to escape that. From the likes of my post and some of the replies to it, it seems as if there are other people on here that feel the same way.
    At no point did I say "I am the only neurodivergent person on here" and Im surprised and hurt that you have reacted like that and misrepresented what I said as you are someone I have a lot of respect for and you and I have always got on and been supportive of each other.

    I am actually in quite a good place mentally at the moment which is why I am not wanting to risk destablising it with some of the arguements that have gone on on here

    I really do feel there is something in the water on here at the moment and people are jumping down each others throats about everything. I dont know why, maybe we are all in a hightened state because of some of the things that have happened lately. Hopefully it goes back to how it was soon 

  • in reply to Billy87

    ‘Stop behaving like NTs.’ That denies us the right to have any crossover in an already confusing Venn diagram of human behaviour. I don’t think it was unfair to assert that that equates to sounding like ‘only I know what it is to be different and how that should look’ but you’ve said that was not your intention and I accept and appreciate that. 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Thanks Shardovan. Thats such a lovely reply! Really made me smile. 

    I feel a bit more hopeful now that this place is different from the outside world and Im so glad we can shake hands and forget about it all :-) 

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