Do you find that you are always eager to please people?

I've only had about half-a-dozen girlfriends. But, on a few (rare) occasions when someone's expressly shown any romantic interest in me, I've actually gone out with them...because I didn't want them to feel sad if I'd said 'no'. It's as if I expected them to be as childishly reactionary as I often am. And this was a rather useless kind of empathy and politeness anyway because, inevitably, things would not work out between us. So then I was doubly-sad for them, and had also wasted their time. A perfect loop of useless kind intentions...

As odd as my behaviour might well seem, I'd not be at all surprised if a few others here had behaved similarly. I *think* it's not so much kindly or gentlemanly behaviour by me but partly a desperate need for people not to be left unhappy. I'm too immature to be able to bear the thought of someone being upset, and I'm childishly sentimental. So, in essence, it might possibly be a mix of selflessness and selfishness.

I did something similar once, in my pre-married days. I might have done it more often, if more women had been interested in going out with me.

I did something similar once, in my pre-married days. I might have done it more often, if more women had been interested in going out with me.

On another note: Thank you for trying to help and comfort RT.  x