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I'm undiagnosed, and although everyone is lovely here on the forum  I'm still finding it hard not to feel like a tourist.  Some of the advice and suggestion from the forum have been very helpful, but I reluctant to really talk to people as I'm not really part of this.  It that normal?  I wanted to get to know other autistic adults, but I don't feel like I'm at a place in my lift where the stress of the diagnosis journey would be worth it.  Where I live the health services are so overwhelmed I'm not a priority, and rightly so.  If I was younger it would be amazing, but I've made it this far without it I thought I should stick to acceptance. But it seems to fit so I'm curious enough to break my isolation a little.

I joined a meet up group online for adult autistics, but the keep meeting up and having events like board games.  Are autistic people all good at board games? I never played any.  Does this mean I'm not autistic? The other one was some sought of meal and I hate eating out. I know it sounds stupid, but things like this just put me off reaching out.  On some level I knew there is a lot of diversity within the community, but I feel like I don't have a guest pass, and can't access it. Do any other undiagnosed people feel the same?

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  • i think board games and meals is a way to get people whod never go out, like you and alot of us, together going out meeting people... they do it as a way to sort of force fix the social isolation by plunging you into a very social thing. also helps get rid of the loneliness people feel, but they forget that it doesnt entirely work as alot of us wouldnt wanna go out into forced social activity and if we tried wed likely feel anxious and cancel just before trying to go out kinda like agoraphobia. so it doesnt entirely work and when you do force it it becomes awkward anyway.

    alot of diagnosis are wrong and based off guesses anyway, and alot of diagnosis where first failed by the nhs then purchased privately lol so i wouldnt worry about diagnosis, health services are not too great, they cant eve diagnose a common cold if you gave them the symptoms.... so i wouldnt worry too much about that. your life experience is all that matters and what you have been through.

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  • i think board games and meals is a way to get people whod never go out, like you and alot of us, together going out meeting people... they do it as a way to sort of force fix the social isolation by plunging you into a very social thing. also helps get rid of the loneliness people feel, but they forget that it doesnt entirely work as alot of us wouldnt wanna go out into forced social activity and if we tried wed likely feel anxious and cancel just before trying to go out kinda like agoraphobia. so it doesnt entirely work and when you do force it it becomes awkward anyway.

    alot of diagnosis are wrong and based off guesses anyway, and alot of diagnosis where first failed by the nhs then purchased privately lol so i wouldnt worry about diagnosis, health services are not too great, they cant eve diagnose a common cold if you gave them the symptoms.... so i wouldnt worry too much about that. your life experience is all that matters and what you have been through.

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