Family arguing

I'm so stressed at the moment. My family basically my dad and brothers are always arguing and running each other in to the ground, actually it's my dad and oldest brother being horrible to my other brother who is autistic but they think he's just "arrogant" because he doesn't speak. I have autism as well and was diagnosed first but no one believes my brothers diagnosis. I feel bad for him, I offer him support and encouragement but I feel like he more wishes he could turn to his dad. If I was him I'd be feeling unloved and alone at the moment.

This is so much pressure. There's a horrible atmosphere at home and my anxiety is really bad. I struggle with coping with anxiety, I get lost in it, unable to cope and function. Two years ago a stressful event actually ended with me being sectioned and I have a horrible feeling it's going that way again, this time I don't think I'd get let home as last time they were reluctant to let me leave. I've told everyone in my house I struggle with stress, that I don't want to go back to hospital but they don't listen. I don't know what to do. My brother has had enough and told me he's moving out, my dad won't stop him and my other brother is really horrible and is happy with this.

I hate my family they make me sad and stressed.

  • Sounds like my situation, but Iโ€™m like your other brother that is autistic. I hope you can get some help here or elsewhere.

  • It's really unfortunate but if the worst shoul happen I really do believe you should go to your local council and get them to increase your priority on the basis of autism if you need to apply for housing. It is tough (I won't lie) trying to make ends meet on universal credit and housing benefit but it is still do-able with very careful planning and may be better for your mental health in the long run. You shouldn't have to be sectioned just because you are autistic and stressed, actually that is very scary that anyone would think that the appropriate care when really you just need a solid and peaceful base foundation to empower you to build yourself a healthy and happy life on top of it.

    It might actually be a good idea to ask your brother if he would want to live with you under such circumstances because tbh I don't think he is horrible for wanting a peaceful home life, sometimes moving out also has the effect of redrawing the boundaries of our relationships with our parents too and forces then to treat us more as adults and less as children.
    Good luck at any rate.

  • I don't want the family splitting up. If I did move I don't know where or how I'd afford it. I'm on pip.

  • Can you move out with your brother?