For the purposes of clarification, my partner, whom I shall be talking about, is non-binary and uses the gender-neutral pronouns they/them/theirs. I know that autism can sometimes display different symptoms depending on biological sex, so I am providing the information that my partner was assigned male at birth and hasn't medically transitioned at all.
I believe my partner is autistic. They've been diagnosed with dyspraxia, also known as Developmental Co-Ordination Disorder, and dyslexia.
They are a paramedic and wonderful at recalling all sorts of medical information. They love to talk about anything and everything related to health concerns and medical conditions and have done ever since I met them. They've always wanted to be a paramedic as well. They watch a lot of factual programmes about hospitals, ambulances, etc. I believe this could be a special interest of theirs. They've also recently gotten into drag, and their interest in it became intense very quickly. They've gotten a wig, make-up, and an outfit and have been trying to find somewhere to perform. They befriended a lot of drag queens and desperately try to find all the make-up that they use and won't want to do anything else until they've found an item or asked a shop assistant about it when shopping. They bring drag and paramedicine into everything too.
They often wear the exact same outfit multiple days in a row and aren't great at taking care of themselves in terms of eating the proper foods and sleeping at a sensible time. They often require a gentle nudge in the right direction to carry out a task properly.
They love to help everyone and due to this, can put themselves in some dangerous situations. They don't hold back in letting people know their opinions either, and if they feel as if I or a friend or themselves has been treated unfairly, they won't hesitate to let the appropriate people know. They're incredibly generous and therefore, tends to get carried away with spending money.
They also have a tendency to lie. I believe this is to make themselves look better in order to fit in or impress others. They exaggerate their roles at work or pretend an event has happened or is going to happen, even if this can be easily disputed. I don't believe they lie to hurt me or anyone else intentionally, in fact, they seem to lie so easily it's almost like they're convinced what they're making up is real. They don't tell big or damaging lies either, as I say, lies I imagine they think will help them fit in or look better.
They're not very socially aware. They don't understand social cues, such as when someone doesn't want to talk anymore or wants to leave, and can bring up random or inappropriate topics of conversation when it isn't the right time to do so. They can come across as a know-it-all, insensitive, and bossy, but I think they're simply trying to inform others of what they know. This has been known to make other people feel upset or uncomfortable at times. They aren't good at talking about their feelings either, tending to leave sharing how they're doing until it's too late and they get sensitive over something little. If someone dies, it's like they're a hero to them no matter what they've done, and they want to save everyone in their job regardless of who they are, which can make it difficult for them emotionally. However, they are fine with gore and can cope with that absolutely fine and is matter-of-fact about it.
They're very stubborn and like to do things their way, when they want to, no planning. They can get carried away with tasks at the expense of all else. They take things very seriously.
As you can tell, I love my partner very much and I am in no way implying that if they were autistic, that would be a bad thing. I'd just like to know the likelihood of them having autism so I can work to understand their behaviours better.
