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New member - can I get advice please? Severe autism burnout :(

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I'm using a throwaway account for this since I wanted to see what it's about. I've been looking on the NHS for support since I've been aware I'm autistic since 2019, and had suspicions as early as 2017. I'm 18 now.

I live with my partner, and have a job alongside education. I don't work a lot, and my class schedule is barely packed. Yet, for the past several years I've been in a burnout. It's becoming really debilitating on most days. I hardly have a week where I can function with everything under control.

I know I'm an adult now but I'm genuinely considering asking my mum and dad to make me little calendars and help me. It's getting so hard to stay on top of cleaning, a masking retail job with sales targets and constant belittling (I know that's just retail but it's the only sort of job I can get with my age and availability, but it's so hard for me energy wise), doing the equivalent of a first year of university, all while loads of changes in my life (socially and stuff like that), as well as driving (a whole other autistic nightmare), and just *screams*.

I'm high-functioning, incredibly smart (apparently), socially apt, and it seems like I am just lazy.

But I'm realising I'm just burnt out constantly, and with the amount of trauma I've been through (a whole other thing), I'm regressing quite a lot mentally to my child self.

I know this can be a universal experience, does anyone have any advice on what to actually do?

I just want some form of relief, but it really comes across like nobody ever takes my disability seriously.

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  • Hi there!  I spent 24 years in advertising and  media, currently studying for a a degree, carer, full time employment and only passed my driving test 6 months ago so can totally relate! It’s exhausting physically and mentally.  I am not going to say ‘Try this it’ll work or try that’ etc. Finding what works for you is the key.  For me it was diaries and journaling.  I’d diarise everything I needed to do and note at the end of the how that day went. I had a scale for mood on awakenings and mood at the end of the day. I found that it wasn’t the usual things like target settings that were wearing me out but meetings.  Driving was fine funnily enough. Too much in one day for too long would wear out Neurotypical people let alone Neurodiverse. Keeping it as simple as allowing yourself some daily time to decompress a little without interference from anything and being strict about that might be a start. I’ve found that little bit of time helps me and being extra strict about it. Having lunch on my own with no one chatting at me also helped. Good luck. It’s a world of tiredness at times x

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  • Hi there!  I spent 24 years in advertising and  media, currently studying for a a degree, carer, full time employment and only passed my driving test 6 months ago so can totally relate! It’s exhausting physically and mentally.  I am not going to say ‘Try this it’ll work or try that’ etc. Finding what works for you is the key.  For me it was diaries and journaling.  I’d diarise everything I needed to do and note at the end of the how that day went. I had a scale for mood on awakenings and mood at the end of the day. I found that it wasn’t the usual things like target settings that were wearing me out but meetings.  Driving was fine funnily enough. Too much in one day for too long would wear out Neurotypical people let alone Neurodiverse. Keeping it as simple as allowing yourself some daily time to decompress a little without interference from anything and being strict about that might be a start. I’ve found that little bit of time helps me and being extra strict about it. Having lunch on my own with no one chatting at me also helped. Good luck. It’s a world of tiredness at times x

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