New member - can I get advice please? Severe autism burnout :(

I'm using a throwaway account for this since I wanted to see what it's about. I've been looking on the NHS for support since I've been aware I'm autistic since 2019, and had suspicions as early as 2017. I'm 18 now.

I live with my partner, and have a job alongside education. I don't work a lot, and my class schedule is barely packed. Yet, for the past several years I've been in a burnout. It's becoming really debilitating on most days. I hardly have a week where I can function with everything under control.

I know I'm an adult now but I'm genuinely considering asking my mum and dad to make me little calendars and help me. It's getting so hard to stay on top of cleaning, a masking retail job with sales targets and constant belittling (I know that's just retail but it's the only sort of job I can get with my age and availability, but it's so hard for me energy wise), doing the equivalent of a first year of university, all while loads of changes in my life (socially and stuff like that), as well as driving (a whole other autistic nightmare), and just *screams*.

I'm high-functioning, incredibly smart (apparently), socially apt, and it seems like I am just lazy.

But I'm realising I'm just burnt out constantly, and with the amount of trauma I've been through (a whole other thing), I'm regressing quite a lot mentally to my child self.

I know this can be a universal experience, does anyone have any advice on what to actually do?

I just want some form of relief, but it really comes across like nobody ever takes my disability seriously.

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  • Hi there. I am going through burnout at the moment and have used google to find some sites that talk about recovery.

    I've been using a particular website which I'm not sure I can post about as it contains details of using the person from the site for private coounselling and hence breaks the rules potentially of this community. But I just searched autistic burnout and found it.

    I have gone to pretty much the lengths that I didn't want to go to to address my burnout:

    Go off sick from work, cut out all stimuation, get bored and start thinking about 'counting spoons', avoid confrontation of any kind

    On the positice side I have been trying to do gentle exercise, listen to calming music, maintain contact with people who I can myself with and getting lots of rest.

    I wish you a speedy recovery

    Mrs Snooks

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  • Hi there. I am going through burnout at the moment and have used google to find some sites that talk about recovery.

    I've been using a particular website which I'm not sure I can post about as it contains details of using the person from the site for private coounselling and hence breaks the rules potentially of this community. But I just searched autistic burnout and found it.

    I have gone to pretty much the lengths that I didn't want to go to to address my burnout:

    Go off sick from work, cut out all stimuation, get bored and start thinking about 'counting spoons', avoid confrontation of any kind

    On the positice side I have been trying to do gentle exercise, listen to calming music, maintain contact with people who I can myself with and getting lots of rest.

    I wish you a speedy recovery

    Mrs Snooks

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