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I'm only a dumb *** old Yank with a H.S. education who recognises my own limitations but nevertheless strives towards further understanding of the human condition with a focus on ASD and my very small part within it. I have no conscious --- and hopefully no subliminal --- pretensions of coercion, etc.  It is with a free and open spirit I engage with our group with my attempt to shed as many masks as I possibly can. This exercise will "hopefully" --- I keep using that word because it is an experiment --- allow me a measure of self-discovery.  When I look into the mirror each morning, I want to view my true self and "hopefully" be comfortable with it.  I've lived a lie most of my life through the deception of masks. What concerns me most is the possibility of disliking what I have discovered as my true self after "hopefully" shedding those masks. This is my reasoning for exploring sites like this with a consideration for many complexed, comorbid possibilities that are hidden within human personalities.:

7 Signs of Hypocrites & The People They Target | Narcissist, Sociopath, and Psychopath Abuse Recovery (psychopathfree.com)

I consider myself a hypocrite because I often find myself being judgemental of others while in reality, I'm not in a position to do so. I'm not trying to rationalise my hypocrisy through its general commonality. My wish is to "hopefully" raise above it. 

What other appropriate aspirations do you have.

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  • You sound very self-aware, which is a useful and highly evolved trait. I suspect that what you are labeling "hypocrisy" has been defensive in many cases. Receiving an ASD diagnosis later in life-60 years- brought new clarity to so many experiences that I had always explained with false and defensive narratives. Perhaps you are simply gaining insight into yourself. For me, I have become more tolerant of myself and neurotypicals, whom I always experienced as overly emotional, illogical and inauthentic. It has also helped me not take reactions of others so seriously. This is a relief after so many years of confusion and frustration about my difficulties with most other humans. I suggest you read some Thomas Moore and avoid wrapping yourself in a negative-sounding label. Observe your feelings and what they are telling you about what you really need, which is much more useful. Best to you.

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  • You sound very self-aware, which is a useful and highly evolved trait. I suspect that what you are labeling "hypocrisy" has been defensive in many cases. Receiving an ASD diagnosis later in life-60 years- brought new clarity to so many experiences that I had always explained with false and defensive narratives. Perhaps you are simply gaining insight into yourself. For me, I have become more tolerant of myself and neurotypicals, whom I always experienced as overly emotional, illogical and inauthentic. It has also helped me not take reactions of others so seriously. This is a relief after so many years of confusion and frustration about my difficulties with most other humans. I suggest you read some Thomas Moore and avoid wrapping yourself in a negative-sounding label. Observe your feelings and what they are telling you about what you really need, which is much more useful. Best to you.

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