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Immie

Recently, I have been feeling really burnt out. There are areas of stress in my life that are constantly pushing. 

I don't know about you guys but I find that when people ask constant and simultaneous questions, it overwhelms me. 

I know they are only sharing that they care and are there to support me but I can't help but feel so overwhelmed. Bombarded nearly every thought of what is bothering me floods in like I'll burst. Running around my mind as the person is still asking questions. I don't know which one to answer first. I don't know how to tell them that I want to be left alone or that I need some air or simply that I just don't want to be around anyone. I want to be in a dark quiet room where I can be on my own to breath and calm myself down. So that I can focus on myself and my feelings.

The thoughts run around getting faster and faster. then I burst. I cry and lash out I scream and yell and I end up hurting those I'm speaking to. I get so anxious I curl up. Self soothing by scratching my arms, but every time this happens I get yelled at. Told to stop crying, calm down, just breath. I can't help but get annoyed. The person didn't realize what they were doing was triggering. I don't know what to do. I just want to run away and be on my own. In my own room where it's safe.

It happens mostly with parents. They claim to be my biggest supporters but don't do their research. They don't listen to me when I explain my triggers. I feel so alone.

How do I encourage my parents to educate themselves about Autism. I feel like it's my fault.

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  • Immie said:
    How do I encourage my parents to educate themselves about Autism. I feel like it's my fault.

    Hi, sorry you’re not feeling the love at the moment, parents are unfortunately not often very receptive to autism. There is an expression, “ you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.” Firstly, it’s not your fault, you are autistic, we often need space and quiet. It’s hard for us to process too many voices at once, it does become overwhelming. I’ve had similar times when everyone is talking at once, sometimes I just slip away and go to my bedroom, I might just say that I need the toilet and they don’t notice. I have shouted, “stop” before, it’s not that the noise is too high, it’s that we can hear all the conversations clearly, the brain just decides, it’s too much. Try to not let it get to a meltdown, I’ve tried explaining to my mother about autism with YouTube videos and just explaining how it affects me in bite size pieces, it is hard work.

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  • Immie said:
    How do I encourage my parents to educate themselves about Autism. I feel like it's my fault.

    Hi, sorry you’re not feeling the love at the moment, parents are unfortunately not often very receptive to autism. There is an expression, “ you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.” Firstly, it’s not your fault, you are autistic, we often need space and quiet. It’s hard for us to process too many voices at once, it does become overwhelming. I’ve had similar times when everyone is talking at once, sometimes I just slip away and go to my bedroom, I might just say that I need the toilet and they don’t notice. I have shouted, “stop” before, it’s not that the noise is too high, it’s that we can hear all the conversations clearly, the brain just decides, it’s too much. Try to not let it get to a meltdown, I’ve tried explaining to my mother about autism with YouTube videos and just explaining how it affects me in bite size pieces, it is hard work.

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