Autism Facebook groups - Parents v Adults

When I say "adults", I mean people on the spectrum.

I have just been kicked out of a Faceboook group which is mostly populated by parents of children on the spectrum. No PM explaining why and no warning.

It seems as though you can't ask questions without being accussed of having a go at someone / upsetting them. I was then told off for arguing. My crime? Explaining why sometimes, there are people on these groups who either don't have Autism or don't have children on the spectrum. That is not arguing.

I also found that I was largely ignored on this group and was more of a "what am I entitled to, now that my child has Autism?" group, rather than actually supporting people and giving advice. They started to approve posts and it seemed that parents could rant about whatever and post whatever they wanted. But I couldn't.

It seems there's a divide between parents whose children are on the spectrum and adults on the spectrum.

Anyone else noticed this?

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  • IntenseWorld said:

    ...just realised what it is and why they do that.  It's a human behaviour to be part of the gang, the tribe, the group.  Anyone different is excluded and ostracised as they threaten the group.  With NTs, because they are NT and you are Aspie/autie you (we) don't fit (their children "don't count" because they are their children) and with other Aspies it will be different reasons such as severe versions of the traits that AS brings being the overriding factor - coupled with individual personality traits, perhaps not so much the tribal aspect but skewed values.

    Yup, from what little I 'understand' of the way the NT mind works, you've pretty much got it spot on.

    Though, I put 'understand' in inverted commas like that, 'cos I find it completely baffling.

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  • IntenseWorld said:

    ...just realised what it is and why they do that.  It's a human behaviour to be part of the gang, the tribe, the group.  Anyone different is excluded and ostracised as they threaten the group.  With NTs, because they are NT and you are Aspie/autie you (we) don't fit (their children "don't count" because they are their children) and with other Aspies it will be different reasons such as severe versions of the traits that AS brings being the overriding factor - coupled with individual personality traits, perhaps not so much the tribal aspect but skewed values.

    Yup, from what little I 'understand' of the way the NT mind works, you've pretty much got it spot on.

    Though, I put 'understand' in inverted commas like that, 'cos I find it completely baffling.

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