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James
  1. Hi - I'm after some support. For years I have felt different from others but never sure why. I suffer from anxiety and depression and in the last few months have been looking into ASD and am currently going through an assessment to see if I have ASD. I feel so isolated and alone at the moment, from what I've read I tick a lot of the boxes and score quite high on the ASD questions but as I've not yet been diagnosed I feel in limbo. I've always struggled with certain situations and also how to express how I feel and the more I try and the more I feel I'm not understood the more frustrated I get. I try so hard not to be the way I am but after years of trying and counselling and cognitive therapy I feel more frustrated than ever that I can't be what is deemed to be "normal". I know I often overreact to certain things and I can see that after the event but when I'm in the moment I just can't seem to let things go and often feel like my head is going to explode with the way that I feel. I don't know where I stand with anything at the moment and after nearly 44 years of living like this I just feel at the end of my tether. 

  • Hello @James

    Thank you for being open with the community. I'm sorry to hear that you have felt isolated and alone recently. If you feel that you might need some support with your mental health, you can find advice and information on how to go about seeking help, including links to other resources and details of helplines and listening support services, here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/seeking-help. 

    All the best,

    ChloeMod

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Interesting....I was 44 when I realised that I definitely had a "issue" that I needed to understand about myself.  Due to belligerence and stubbornness on my part, I decided to go "no where good" (your words) for the next half decade whilst trying to decipher my own inexplicabilities!  It all came good eventually, but those are some bleak and lonely dark corridors of the soul to explore for that long.

  • Hi James. That sounds spookily similar to my story. Right down to 44 being there age where I just had to know and sought diagnosis. Otherwise the dwindling energy reserves of middle age combined with no let up in the overwhelm was going nowhere good. Not that it’s a magic bullet to get formally diagnosed, but it does help. Best wishes to you and I hope you get the answers you need. 

  • Hello James.  May I suggest that you use the "search" button to find the old threads on the topic areas you have raised above in the first instance.  There are many hundreds of relevant writings for you to find.

    Many here will readily identify with what you have written above, (I certainly do) but you will appreciate that it is an amorphous area that is raised here on a daily basis by many a travelling soul.

    I'm sure others will say hi, but in the meanwhile, take a dive into the archive - keep calm - carry.on - and know that you are definitely not alone!

    Best regards.