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Memory problems and making conversation

Guernseyguy

Hello everyone.

I am new here and i have been browsing the forum here for a while now.

I wanted to make a post, to see if other people who are autistic, suffer with both, short term and long term memory problems? 

In particular, remembering conversations, or remembering a programme you watched last night,? et's say for example EastEnders. If I was to watch an episode and then the next episode the following day I've forgotten what happended the day before.

I can't remember conversations I've had with people the previous day. Sometimes, even the same day, but only a few hours later. I find myself trying to recollect what was said, but to be met with complete mind blank.

I have struggled, for as long as I can remember, with small talk, making and holding conversations,  like many others here on the forum.

Talking and the effort it takes me, to try and do the above I find very stressful. I also tend to script play scenarios in my head, how I think the conversation will go and what I'm going to say.in reply  issue is tho, Most of the time, it goes another direction and I'm then left feeling on the spot and very uncomfortable.

I hope joining here I will find people I can relate too.

Seeing everyone around me making conversation and making it appear so easy makes me feel a failure too. Does anyone feel the same? 

Has anyone with asd ever felt like an outcast to the rest of society?

If anyone here suffers with the memory issues or similar like I have  mentioned at the start of my post, do you have anything that you find helps you? 

Thank you for reading my post 

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  • My husband has a very patchy memory, sometimes he struggles to remember what we are arguing about during the argument! He also struggles to follow TV shows with too many characters. He doesn't officially have autism and resists the idea he might (I'm the one who is happy to self diagnose as autistic but I have been having suspicions about him for a while now) but he is ND as he has schizo-affective disorder.  Like me, he couldn't do the eye-emotion test, but he resists doing other autism tests.

    I do script conversations, especially for phone calls, a lot of autists do. Short term memory problems are associated with ADHD (which I also reckon I have) - if most people have 4 short term memory slots, ADHDers only have 3 apparently.

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  • My husband has a very patchy memory, sometimes he struggles to remember what we are arguing about during the argument! He also struggles to follow TV shows with too many characters. He doesn't officially have autism and resists the idea he might (I'm the one who is happy to self diagnose as autistic but I have been having suspicions about him for a while now) but he is ND as he has schizo-affective disorder.  Like me, he couldn't do the eye-emotion test, but he resists doing other autism tests.

    I do script conversations, especially for phone calls, a lot of autists do. Short term memory problems are associated with ADHD (which I also reckon I have) - if most people have 4 short term memory slots, ADHDers only have 3 apparently.

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