Memory problems and making conversation

Hello everyone.

I am new here and i have been browsing the forum here for a while now.

I wanted to make a post, to see if other people who are autistic, suffer with both, short term and long term memory problems? 

In particular, remembering conversations, or remembering a programme you watched last night,? et's say for example EastEnders. If I was to watch an episode and then the next episode the following day I've forgotten what happended the day before.

I can't remember conversations I've had with people the previous day. Sometimes, even the same day, but only a few hours later. I find myself trying to recollect what was said, but to be met with complete mind blank.

I have struggled, for as long as I can remember, with small talk, making and holding conversations,  like many others here on the forum.

Talking and the effort it takes me, to try and do the above I find very stressful. I also tend to script play scenarios in my head, how I think the conversation will go and what I'm going to say.in reply  issue is tho, Most of the time, it goes another direction and I'm then left feeling on the spot and very uncomfortable.

I hope joining here I will find people I can relate too.

Seeing everyone around me making conversation and making it appear so easy makes me feel a failure too. Does anyone feel the same? 

Has anyone with asd ever felt like an outcast to the rest of society?

If anyone here suffers with the memory issues or similar like I have  mentioned at the start of my post, do you have anything that you find helps you? 

Thank you for reading my post 

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  • I have words and names just drop out of my 'ready access' memory in mid-sentence. I will remember them a few minutes later, but at the time I am frantically searching around in my mind for some equivalent word to use, or I have come to an embarrassing stop in mid flow.

  • I do that often. Sometimes I have to describe what I mean. Yes I can also think of the word later.  I have been known to use the word 'thing' of an object.

  • I use thing a lot too. Sometimes green thing or red thing or thing over there waving my hand in the general direction.

    But I'm not too worried about the tip of tongue thing (!) since I heard that actually above the age of about 30 everyone gets that several times a day!

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  • I use thing a lot too. Sometimes green thing or red thing or thing over there waving my hand in the general direction.

    But I'm not too worried about the tip of tongue thing (!) since I heard that actually above the age of about 30 everyone gets that several times a day!

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