Memory problems and making conversation

Hello everyone.

I am new here and i have been browsing the forum here for a while now.

I wanted to make a post, to see if other people who are autistic, suffer with both, short term and long term memory problems?

In particular, remembering conversations, or remembering a programme you watched last night,? et's say for example EastEnders. If I was to watch an episode and then the next episode the following day I've forgotten what happended the day before.

I can't remember conversations I've had with people the previous day. Sometimes, even the same day, but only a few hours later. I find myself trying to recollect what was said, but to be met with complete mind blank.

I have struggled, for as long as I can remember, with small talk, making and holding conversations, like many others here on the forum.

Talking and the effort it takes me, to try and do the above I find very stressful. I also tend to script play scenarios in my head, how I think the conversation will go and what I'm going to say.in reply issue is tho, Most of the time, it goes another direction and I'm then left feeling on the spot and very uncomfortable.

I hope joining here I will find people I can relate too.

Seeing everyone around me making conversation and making it appear so easy makes me feel a failure too. Does anyone feel the same?

Has anyone with asd ever felt like an outcast to the rest of society?

If anyone here suffers with the memory issues or similar like I have mentioned at the start of my post, do you have anything that you find helps you?

Thank you for reading my post

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Sporadic Sparkly over 3 years ago

I find I can remember conversations and events that happened years ago in vivid detail. However, my short-term memory can be terrible. For example, if I'm watching something on TV with ad breaks, I can find that in the short space of time it takes me to make a drink or pop to the loo, I've completely forgotten all about the programme or film I'm part-way through watching. Most frustrating when it's been something I have been particularly looking forward to watching.

Sometimes I might say something to my son that I've forgotten I had said to him minutes earlier.

I tend to attribute my short-term memory issues to my age and the fact that I'm post-menopausal.

Anyway, I probably should have said this first, but "Hello" and "Welcome" to the forum Guernseyguy.
Steven over 3 years ago in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

I bought the same paperback four times(!) because I'd forgotten that I'd already bought and read it previously. *sobs*

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Steven over 3 years ago in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

I bought the same paperback four times(!) because I'd forgotten that I'd already bought and read it previously. *sobs*

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Steven over 3 years ago in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

It's a favourite book of mine too, so I had no excuse at all.

'that makes me feel so much better about my own memory issues' - excellent.
Sporadic Sparkly over 3 years ago in reply to Steven

I'm not quite sure how to respond to that. Buying the 2nd book is something that I can imagine myself doing, especially if it had been a while since I'd read the first book. It's the fact that you had then bought the same book a third and fourth time. I'm so sorry Steven , but that makes me feel so much better about my own memory issues.