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Some people seem to have remained in this place for many years and still pop-up in discussions from time to time. I would expect that to be the rule for these ‘elders’ of our community but I note that they are definitely the exceptions.

The vast majority of established contributors (by which I mean those with points in the tens-of-thousands) seem to ultimately disappear without a trace.

What happens to these people? Do they find it better to be away from this place when they have been thick within it for “too” long? Does the comfort and connection available here become toxic to personal growth? Does boredom creep in? Do they find it swallows too much of their time?

The optimistic side of me likes to think that they derived such tremendous advice, support, love and connection from this place that they transcended their wish to talk with others and have stormed the bastion of their NT environments, conquered all their demons and now live happily authentic and content autistic lives.

.....but I’d expect them to send a friendly postcard back to us 'young-uns' from time to time, with some encouragement that we can ultimately attain the same?

Does this unsolvable question bother anyone else out there?  Is "Plastic" still out there somewhere watching over this forum?!

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  • The problem is life.

    Some of us have work and family and this forum can demand time - thought-FULL-ness, which is consuming. It is amazing to connect but it can also be overwhelming for some. 

    There's a moment in time for everything. Learning to embrace these points in time, be in the moment and allow them to pass is a part of life that can be harder for autistics to accept, but it's unfortunately just the way life is... x

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  • The problem is life.

    Some of us have work and family and this forum can demand time - thought-FULL-ness, which is consuming. It is amazing to connect but it can also be overwhelming for some. 

    There's a moment in time for everything. Learning to embrace these points in time, be in the moment and allow them to pass is a part of life that can be harder for autistics to accept, but it's unfortunately just the way life is... x

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    That thoughtFULLness thing is so true. Sometimes when my heads been imploding and I’m very disregulated I come on here to try and settle. And if the trending threads are simpatico with that it helps. Occasionally they’re inadvertently too close to a raw nerve instead and I either lurk to try and stare it down (but don’t post) or kind of bounce of the surface, unable to take in the big stuff I kind of need but can’t in that moment absorb into a churning brain. So I retreat. And then days pass and I come on again when feeling less out of whack and might even find those threads less daunting.