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Some people seem to have remained in this place for many years and still pop-up in discussions from time to time. I would expect that to be the rule for these ‘elders’ of our community but I note that they are definitely the exceptions.

The vast majority of established contributors (by which I mean those with points in the tens-of-thousands) seem to ultimately disappear without a trace.

What happens to these people? Do they find it better to be away from this place when they have been thick within it for “too” long? Does the comfort and connection available here become toxic to personal growth? Does boredom creep in? Do they find it swallows too much of their time?

The optimistic side of me likes to think that they derived such tremendous advice, support, love and connection from this place that they transcended their wish to talk with others and have stormed the bastion of their NT environments, conquered all their demons and now live happily authentic and content autistic lives.

.....but I’d expect them to send a friendly postcard back to us 'young-uns' from time to time, with some encouragement that we can ultimately attain the same?

Does this unsolvable question bother anyone else out there?  Is "Plastic" still out there somewhere watching over this forum?!

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  • I find that some NAS generated profiles often are only looking for an answer to a specific question, that’s fine. Some stay until they have worked through the idea of autism hitting their lives, often after a diagnosis. I’m happy here and had never known that there are others like me. I knew Plastic had passed away, I didn’t know Remora had. When I first joined the group, I chatted quite a lot with Conscious Badger, I personally felt a bit lost, she left the group very suddenly. I fully understand that people leave, there are often’ deleted user’ posts. I much prefer that someone just states that they are leaving, they don’t have to give a reason, I was just worried with Conscious Badger that she had harmed herself or worse. On a slightly different angle, I would rather NAS profiles only last until the end of signing up, the numbers are too similar, I struggle with the layout of them. I often wonder if some are bots, people being malicious or undercover study.

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  • I find that some NAS generated profiles often are only looking for an answer to a specific question, that’s fine. Some stay until they have worked through the idea of autism hitting their lives, often after a diagnosis. I’m happy here and had never known that there are others like me. I knew Plastic had passed away, I didn’t know Remora had. When I first joined the group, I chatted quite a lot with Conscious Badger, I personally felt a bit lost, she left the group very suddenly. I fully understand that people leave, there are often’ deleted user’ posts. I much prefer that someone just states that they are leaving, they don’t have to give a reason, I was just worried with Conscious Badger that she had harmed herself or worse. On a slightly different angle, I would rather NAS profiles only last until the end of signing up, the numbers are too similar, I struggle with the layout of them. I often wonder if some are bots, people being malicious or undercover study.

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