How do I rent as someone on the spectrum?

Aged 28, primarily attained middling GCSE and A level grades whilst at school, was severely bullied there and physically, verbally and emotionally abused in the home.

I have spent much of my twenties accruing as much knowledge as possible due to my inability to accept t hat my grades could have been much better, as the bullying effectively destroyed my love of learning whilst at home.

Having never really lived away from home, and given how toxic my parents are, it has resulted in chronically low self-esteem and led to me having lived an incredibly stunted life (I have moderate professional success but I needed a home and school environment in which I could have been allowed to thrive both academically and in terms of my extracurriculars - it did not help for my self esteem that I had speech and language issues, which resulted in bullying both in the home and at school).

I realise that, for the sake of my mental health, I need to be away from my parents, even if I could have saved on a deposit for a house by staying with my parents in London (it has gotten to the point where I have developed a strong visceral hatred for both of them).

With that in mind, are there any useful step by step guides for renting in the UK if you're on the spectrum? I am self studying for some A levels as a private candidate at the moment, and so I can't really concentrate on multiple things at once. I have also been let down far too many times by those I thought I could trust to have the spoons to undertake the research.

Thanks in advance.

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  • Hi there 8408, welcome to the forum.

    My advice is to take your time, look into the details.. rent..rates..tenancy agreement etc,  Always get a written contract,  and read the small print.

    Also, think about how you're going to break this to your parents, if they don't already know it may come as a bit of a shock to them.

    It's going to be a big change and I wish you well with it, but I must warn you that moving will use up a heck of a lot of spoons.  (Anyone unfamiliar with spoon theory could be a little bewildered by that comment ! )

    Take your time.

    Ben

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