New Year Resolutions

I thought the following "Desiderata" (what is wanted or needed) may be a welcomed reminder of what is truly important in this uncertain world. Perhaps there is someone out there who is cleverer than I with words, and who can adapt this for our group with a new title, possibly creating a guide?

Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth clearly and quietly and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story to tell. Avoid loud and aggressive persons who are vexations to your spirit. If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career however humble it may be; for it is a possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs with due diligence; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is. Many persons strive for high ideals and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be true to yourself, especially do not feign affection. Never be cynical about love, for it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the council of the years, gracefully surrendering youth's trappings. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune, but do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue, stress, and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees or stars with the same right to exist. No doubt the universe is forever unfolding as it should, whether or not it is clear to you. Be at peace with your God whatever your labours and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life. Keep peace with your soul. The world is still a beautiful place despite its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams. Be careful and strive to be happy.

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  • I never make them. No commitment is more likely to be broken than the one most strongly proclaimed as a solemn vow, starting… now. 

    I have always had a sort of vague wish for the year ahead: do no harm, say more with fewer words, listen more and speak less. I always failed, and now I know why. I am who I am and am wired the way I’m wired. No resolution will ‘fix’ that any more than CBT was ever going to sort out my anxiety. 

  • New years resolutions are also not my thing...I was actually pondering the whole concept of New Year last night- the idea of new years resolutions never really worked for me as I believe that if I want to/need to change something, the moment to implement that is now and I don't need to wait for a certain date- if I feel the need to wait it just means that I am not ready to make the change. Also I find setting a date for a change can put a lot of pressure and that is counterproductive for me. Maybe for some people having New Year's resolutions can work well though. 

    When I was pondering all this yesterday, I realised the new year could really help to compartmentalise and to move forward. So this is my take for this year. I want to start fresh and move on from all the bad things of the past. A RESET. Easier said than done probably but I do think I spend way to much time thinking of all my failures and being anxious about things because maybe they went wrong in the past or because I had a bad experience. But I want to try and let go of that. Because it's not productive. I'm not the same person as when those bad experiences happened. Also it's not helpful to dwell on all the things I failed at- I want to look forward and focus on where I want to go and what I need to do to make that happen. By focusing more on positives hopefully I can boost my confidence. 

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  • New years resolutions are also not my thing...I was actually pondering the whole concept of New Year last night- the idea of new years resolutions never really worked for me as I believe that if I want to/need to change something, the moment to implement that is now and I don't need to wait for a certain date- if I feel the need to wait it just means that I am not ready to make the change. Also I find setting a date for a change can put a lot of pressure and that is counterproductive for me. Maybe for some people having New Year's resolutions can work well though. 

    When I was pondering all this yesterday, I realised the new year could really help to compartmentalise and to move forward. So this is my take for this year. I want to start fresh and move on from all the bad things of the past. A RESET. Easier said than done probably but I do think I spend way to much time thinking of all my failures and being anxious about things because maybe they went wrong in the past or because I had a bad experience. But I want to try and let go of that. Because it's not productive. I'm not the same person as when those bad experiences happened. Also it's not helpful to dwell on all the things I failed at- I want to look forward and focus on where I want to go and what I need to do to make that happen. By focusing more on positives hopefully I can boost my confidence. 

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