How do I look/present to non aspies

Hi,

late life diagnosis in 50’s, 18 months ago. ***! it’s hard getting my head around it, but I’m getting there. My wife is actually using the term ASD, for an Asian bird this is a massive step forward and I do feel sorry for her; aspies ain’t a thing in her culture. 

one thing I’m struggling to understand, and I’m guessing I’m not alone, is how am I different to an NT? How can an NT spot I’m different and therefore treat me different and quite often bully me?

I’m finally in the acceptance phase and actually have been ‘over sharing’ my diagnosis and no-one seems to give a ***, which I like, especially some my regular patients. 

Bur again I seemed focused atm on HOW I’m different, how can NT’s know but not know if that makes sense.