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Stim Acceptance.

Roy

Just wanted to make a positive post, I was cooking dinner tonight,  the radio was on with some good 80’s tunes. My wife was in the living room with my son being quite noisy. I was listening to my music in the kitchen and stimming quite a lot, I love to open and close my hands quickly and shake my arms at the same time.  Sometimes I stim if I’m happy, angry or anxious. My wife walked into the kitchen unexpectedly and caught me, I immediately stopped and put my hands in my pockets, I felt like a naughty school boy, she asked if it was okay to hug me, and obviously it was, it’s nice to be asked first . She then said to me, never hide what you do, I love you and don’t fully understand what or why you do things, but don’t hide them in front of me. It’s 12 months this week since I realised, I’ve Not been mad, bad or mostly  sad for 50 + years. I’m autistic and still finding my way!

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  • I’m very aware that a lot of my stims are very subtle and probably are that way by design (through lots of modification due to self-consciousness). Mostly hands and face related really. Although the miles of pacing backward and forwards in each room I’m in probably isn’t all that subtle, in hindsight.

    But that’s not why I’m posting here, instead I wanted to comment on how lovely that is. Whilst it doesn’t really make a difference, I’m pleased for you. 

  • in reply to Oakling

    Thank you, I think we often stim in more subtle ways, I know I do, I often don’t want to draw attention. My carpets have tracts worn across them, especially up and down the hallway. I’m often just processing things, or there is too much to process. It often stops a shutdown or meltdown for me. It’s all an ongoing learning process for us. 

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  • in reply to Oakling

    Thank you, I think we often stim in more subtle ways, I know I do, I often don’t want to draw attention. My carpets have tracts worn across them, especially up and down the hallway. I’m often just processing things, or there is too much to process. It often stops a shutdown or meltdown for me. It’s all an ongoing learning process for us. 

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