Christmas is a struggle

Hello

I have not been diagnosed with autism, but have always felt I don't fit in and am wondering now in later life if it is worth or even possible to try and get a formal diagnosis?  What are your experiences please?  I am a scientist who has no real friendships outside of work and I find it difficult to feel part of any groups and my own family.  I am OK with one on one relationships, but I always need a time limit/exit strategy, so am wondering if this is a recognised sign?  I find Christmas hard every year since I hate family gatherings and know that I will probably upset someone at some point.  I suppose I was hoping that a formal diagnosis might make it easier to explain to people why I don't want to participate - but is that just me looking for excuses?  Is there a reliable way I could self-assess before considering whether to waste anyone's time?

Thank you for listening.

K

Parents
  • With you all the way K. Sounds like me. My diagnosis was late in life and my family have been brilliant and are more supportive than I could have ever wished for. They help by recognising I need space and seclusion and they make sure I am given it without judgement. I consider my formal diagnosis as key and would recommend it to anyone regardless of age etc. 

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  • With you all the way K. Sounds like me. My diagnosis was late in life and my family have been brilliant and are more supportive than I could have ever wished for. They help by recognising I need space and seclusion and they make sure I am given it without judgement. I consider my formal diagnosis as key and would recommend it to anyone regardless of age etc. 

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