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Christmas is a struggle

NAS83894

Hello

I have not been diagnosed with autism, but have always felt I don't fit in and am wondering now in later life if it is worth or even possible to try and get a formal diagnosis?  What are your experiences please?  I am a scientist who has no real friendships outside of work and I find it difficult to feel part of any groups and my own family.  I am OK with one on one relationships, but I always need a time limit/exit strategy, so am wondering if this is a recognised sign?  I find Christmas hard every year since I hate family gatherings and know that I will probably upset someone at some point.  I suppose I was hoping that a formal diagnosis might make it easier to explain to people why I don't want to participate - but is that just me looking for excuses?  Is there a reliable way I could self-assess before considering whether to waste anyone's time?

Thank you for listening.

K

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  • i didn't read anyone's comment but from what I read it's worth seeking an official diagnosis . I'm kawthar 19 attend city of Glasgow college . i am waiting on a diagnosis of autism rn 

  • in reply to KJ1234

    Thanks so much for all the guidance and support.  I did several of the online tests (all with high scores), but I don't think I can justify asking for an NHS referral to diagnose since I am able to work as a scientist quite naturally and it is usually only relationships with family and people I don't know that causes problems.  A private diagnosis is way beyond my means at ~£1700.  I think I may be better off just looking into tools for managing the things I struggle with or a way to explain to my family that I cannot live up to their expectations?

    I hope you all have a peaceful and stress-free Christmas.  I am planning a long walk in the rain...!

    K

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  • in reply to KJ1234

    Thanks so much for all the guidance and support.  I did several of the online tests (all with high scores), but I don't think I can justify asking for an NHS referral to diagnose since I am able to work as a scientist quite naturally and it is usually only relationships with family and people I don't know that causes problems.  A private diagnosis is way beyond my means at ~£1700.  I think I may be better off just looking into tools for managing the things I struggle with or a way to explain to my family that I cannot live up to their expectations?

    I hope you all have a peaceful and stress-free Christmas.  I am planning a long walk in the rain...!

    K

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