Christmas is a struggle

Hello

I have not been diagnosed with autism, but have always felt I don't fit in and am wondering now in later life if it is worth or even possible to try and get a formal diagnosis?  What are your experiences please?  I am a scientist who has no real friendships outside of work and I find it difficult to feel part of any groups and my own family.  I am OK with one on one relationships, but I always need a time limit/exit strategy, so am wondering if this is a recognised sign?  I find Christmas hard every year since I hate family gatherings and know that I will probably upset someone at some point.  I suppose I was hoping that a formal diagnosis might make it easier to explain to people why I don't want to participate - but is that just me looking for excuses?  Is there a reliable way I could self-assess before considering whether to waste anyone's time?

Thank you for listening.

K

Parents
  • Hello K, many of us find socializing hard so do not be hard on yourself.  I liberated myself from Christmas years ago and love being able to simply go out for a bike ride instead. I note that more and more people are doing this or going out for a walk so please never feel you have to do Christmas. I hope your journey towards a diagnosis goes well and that you make friends here on the community.  

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  • Hello K, many of us find socializing hard so do not be hard on yourself.  I liberated myself from Christmas years ago and love being able to simply go out for a bike ride instead. I note that more and more people are doing this or going out for a walk so please never feel you have to do Christmas. I hope your journey towards a diagnosis goes well and that you make friends here on the community.  

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