Constant touching - please help! :-(

I really do need some advice here. I feel horrible for even typing this, but I feel like I'm going to explode if I don't talk to somebody. My 14 year boy has Aspergers. He has the need to be touching me almost constantly. If I am resting or sitting, he will come and sit almost on top of my feet and be constantly touching and stroking my legs. If he can reach, he will do the same with my arms and hands. To the point where it stops me doing things because he is in need of almost constant contact with me. I'm exhausted and I'm starting to really resent him doing it. Cry 

I love the boy to pieces and I would move mountains for him, but I just want him to leave me be for even just five minutes a day. I can't say anything to him because very time I have tried, he just doesn't get why he shouldn't do it, thinks I am angry with him and goes into  major meltdown. I can't put him through that. Cry

Is it normal for autistic kids to do this? Is there anything I can do about it? Please help if you can. I feel so guilty for feeling this way. Cry

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  • IntenseWorld said:

    Another thought has just occurred to me.  Does your son suffer with derealisation episodes?  I just thought perhaps he is touching you to reassure himself that you are concrete and "real", to ground himself.  I get frequent derealisation as do my daughters and it feels like you're in a dream, it's horrible.  It's pretty common in ASDs.

    http://www.anxietycare.org.uk/docs/unreal.asp

    Intense that is fascinating, with my Aspergers, I have always seen the world as "not really there", being more a virtual world dreamlike,, not real until I touch it, it is my solid sense, which makes the world perceptionally appear real. The image I see out there(the external world) is not out there, it is me looking inside me, I am looking inside myself. Since I was a small child, I have always known this, my world would just disappear....  as I walked around a corner. Why should it exist when I am not there ?  a generating potential zero fluxing as I walk by myself inside. When my mind is down(not thinking),, nothing exists, time has stopped, limits are infinite. I start expanding Wink

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  • IntenseWorld said:

    Another thought has just occurred to me.  Does your son suffer with derealisation episodes?  I just thought perhaps he is touching you to reassure himself that you are concrete and "real", to ground himself.  I get frequent derealisation as do my daughters and it feels like you're in a dream, it's horrible.  It's pretty common in ASDs.

    http://www.anxietycare.org.uk/docs/unreal.asp

    Intense that is fascinating, with my Aspergers, I have always seen the world as "not really there", being more a virtual world dreamlike,, not real until I touch it, it is my solid sense, which makes the world perceptionally appear real. The image I see out there(the external world) is not out there, it is me looking inside me, I am looking inside myself. Since I was a small child, I have always known this, my world would just disappear....  as I walked around a corner. Why should it exist when I am not there ?  a generating potential zero fluxing as I walk by myself inside. When my mind is down(not thinking),, nothing exists, time has stopped, limits are infinite. I start expanding Wink

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