Hi to you all.
Recently I was told I am not Autistic because……….” you are good at computers”
mmmmmmm! Curious.
Discuss!
Hi to you all.
Recently I was told I am not Autistic because……….” you are good at computers”
mmmmmmm! Curious.
Discuss!
Hi to you all and thanks for the comments. What surprised me was I read that one of the stereotypes of autism according to some is that they are good at computers. Then someone comes along and the opposite assumption is made. Just goes to show that ways of seeing can completely flip sides. All goes to show so to speak.
I have also been told I have too many friends to be Autistic. Then I learned that some Autistic people can be quite social. With me it has taken decades however.
I once had he was not rocking in a benefits assessment as if that is the only signifier of stress.
I does hurt.
I hope that's a typo, but, if it's not, I hope what you are feeling now heals.
Believe me - I know.
Me too. It does hurt.
.......and/or I for one, find myself masking it away.....because that is often easier in the moment ! Not cool, but true.
Sometimes though that works for the moment, and it helps with survival. But, as you probably know, it is exhausting in the long run.
I have had several decades long friendships and relationships go under because suddenly the mask isn't present, and then it's - raw.
Sometimes your Autism is really up front and noticable, but it gets deliberately talked away
.......and/or I for one, find myself masking it away.....because that is often easier in the moment ! Not cool, but true.
Yes, yes and yes.....and no, I'm not being sarcastic. Rage on my dude!
Recently I was told I am not Autistic because……….”
Quite perplexing, isn't it.
Sometimes your Autism is really up front and noticable, but it gets deliberately talked away. It is a struggle.
Oh and I meant to add,
This is a statement I worry about often. Not because I am concerned that I then need to convince someone, but rather, I just know that in the moment, I’ll probably more than likely forget the quick witted responses that point out the ignorance of such statements.
I'm possibly going off on a tangent here, but it relates to a PIP assessment I had back in 2019. In the assessor's report, she noted that although I had mentioned I was feeling anxious, there had been no visible signs of distress such as rocking in my chair or excessive sweating. She added that I had appeared calm and maintained eye contact throughout the assessment. It basically came across as though I couldn't possibly have been experiencing anxiety related to my ASD because I wasn't exhibiting any stereotypical ASD ('Rain Man') behaviour.
I can only assume her knowledge of ASD didn't include anything on the subject of masking.
I tihnk it's hard because now we know more about ourselves we want other people to understand this too. We have our own expierneces to ascribe autism to. But when the people around us have known us all our lives they don't know what we hide or that we are good at hiding things. Autism seems to be measured by behaviour but it's an internal experience. Yes everyone might be somwhere on the spectrum but how much anxiety or mental health problems does it cause them? And the fact that it's a hollistic viewpoint with regards to autism, not individual things which everyone probably encounters at some point in their lives. I think fundamentally, we process the world differently. Sorry that doesn't help your situation I just wanted to say something in relation.
Thank you for ranting - it saves me having to do it !
It can be worse. When you try to explain how it is and they start arguing with you that it's impossible for a differently organised brains to evolve, that everything that's not a correct norm is a deviation. They skip over fact that nobody proved their model was first. Maybe they were deviation at first and they just breed better?
I’ve been trying to explain how being autistic affects me to my own family, it’s just a waste of time. My wife has just been on holiday with my mother. My wife said she would sit mother down whilst away and try to explain how my life is. They returned last week and my wife just said, “sorry, I tried”. My brother gave me the,”just concentrate on the positives in your life”. My sister works with autistic children so you can guess where that led. I told one other person who I thought might understand, the reply was,” we are all on the spectrum somewhere.” I just want to scream. I told two people right at the start of my realisation of autism. they are both neurodivergent and understood immediately and both said, I thought you was. Why can’t neurotypical people get it? All they want to do is tell you that you can’t be autistic and not to worry. My mother’s first reply was that autistic people can’t talk and stare at walls. Sorry, I’m ranting now.
