Ending a relationship

Hi. I’m undiagnosed and now at 48 I have approached the Dr for a referral along these lines. 
I’m here today writing because my wife is slowly losing the will to carry on with our relationship. It’s not something she has said but I can tell and we have had many conversations in the past about my behaviour, thought process and how the rest of the world doesn’t think like me. 
I know I’m different, I try to explain my thought process as best I can and I do try to act against my natural instinct but I will say it probably gets the better of me, despite my efforts. 

Im now at the point where I feel I cannot keep being a burden and ruining my wife’s life. I love her and that’s why I feel I should let her have the freedom she needs. I know it won’t be complete freedom as we have a child together but I’m thinking that if she doesn’t have to deal with me every day, then her life will be better than it currently is. 

Has anybody else taken this decision to actively end a relationship for the sake of others ? Where do you start ? Is it actually the best thing to do or is there some guidance and support for us both that we could turn to ? 
I really don’t know what to do for the best but right now I’m ready to stop the bus and get off. 

Thoughts anyone, please. 

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  • Ending a relationship because of problems another person ‘might’ find intolerable. Because they ‘might’ feel too guilty to make this clear, because they ‘might’ be happier with out you. It seems stupid to me.

    if you go talk to your wife and ask her directly if she’s happy with your relationship and if she thinks she can be happy even if you can only change so much at least after that conversation you can start planing your future ’together or apart.’

    Right now you’re just making assumptions you don’t need to make. Go talk to her and sort it out.

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  • Ending a relationship because of problems another person ‘might’ find intolerable. Because they ‘might’ feel too guilty to make this clear, because they ‘might’ be happier with out you. It seems stupid to me.

    if you go talk to your wife and ask her directly if she’s happy with your relationship and if she thinks she can be happy even if you can only change so much at least after that conversation you can start planing your future ’together or apart.’

    Right now you’re just making assumptions you don’t need to make. Go talk to her and sort it out.

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