Ending a relationship

You are assuming she is losing the will to continue with things. My advice would be to explain clearly and concisely how you feel, and ask her how she feels about the situation. If she does say she wants to leave, then find a way to make it work for the two of you and your child. The worst thing to do right now would be to leave her because you don’t want to be a burden. Talk it out, and consider couples counselling,  but bear in mind, that’s one hell of a thing to take on, and you have something even bigger ti get sorted first….. x

Thanks for the reply Catlover. 
There’s always going to be my side and her side and of course it’s easy to speak for myself. This isn’t the first time we’ve had difficulties in communication. My wife will not say the marriage is over. It’s one of those deadlock things where she won’t say it’s over so I dime it’s her wish to continue. It could also be that she doesn’t want the guilt of being the one to call it, despite me saying that I’d never take that solely on herself. It would be a mutual decision. 
Finding a way through is extremely difficult. I see things one way and she another. I say neither is wrong but so many times I’m made to feel stupid by her. I know I have an alternative outlook on life but I’m not stupid. This mornings post came about because of me trying desperately to find a way to explain my viewpoint on a particular topic but as it didn’t align with hers, I ended up giving up and walking away. Feeling unheard and again wrong for my efforts. 

Thing is, it can’t just go on like this. We cannot keep being frustrated by each other. Her by my thought process and me being made to feel wrong. 
I feel uncomfortable in her company, I either have nothing she would find interesting to say or I find I don’t like who she is being and I don’t want to be around her. 
Today, my little one is missing out on me because I don’t want to be around my wife. I feel like I would just ruin her time with our child because I’m fed up and miserable with being the weird one. 

Thanks for the reply Catlover. 
There’s always going to be my side and her side and of course it’s easy to speak for myself. This isn’t the first time we’ve had difficulties in communication. My wife will not say the marriage is over. It’s one of those deadlock things where she won’t say it’s over so I dime it’s her wish to continue. It could also be that she doesn’t want the guilt of being the one to call it, despite me saying that I’d never take that solely on herself. It would be a mutual decision. 
Finding a way through is extremely difficult. I see things one way and she another. I say neither is wrong but so many times I’m made to feel stupid by her. I know I have an alternative outlook on life but I’m not stupid. This mornings post came about because of me trying desperately to find a way to explain my viewpoint on a particular topic but as it didn’t align with hers, I ended up giving up and walking away. Feeling unheard and again wrong for my efforts. 

Thing is, it can’t just go on like this. We cannot keep being frustrated by each other. Her by my thought process and me being made to feel wrong. 
I feel uncomfortable in her company, I either have nothing she would find interesting to say or I find I don’t like who she is being and I don’t want to be around her. 
Today, my little one is missing out on me because I don’t want to be around my wife. I feel like I would just ruin her time with our child because I’m fed up and miserable with being the weird one. 

My parents used to shout at each other all the time, it was loud and harsh and angry and I always thought life would be much easier for everyone if they seperated.  Bickering doesn’t sound as bad, but I would want to give a positive environment for my kid to grow up in.  

If your wife can't be honest about her feelings, and she's continuing to keep hurting you, then don't stay together just for the sake of it.  Have a proper sit down discussion and work out what you both need.

I really feel like I’m bending the wrong persons ear about this. I apologise. 
There’s a massive amount to all of this and would probably take about a year or two to talk through. 
I still feel right now is important and right now, life is pretty grim. 
I have lived on my own and I feel that perhaps that’s for the best. I don’t want to be without my 7 year old but sure it’s better not to bicker around the kids. Of course, the damage it does to kids when parents separate is horrible too. 
So that’s why knowing what to do for the best feels like an impossibility. 

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