School Trauma?

I just revisited Jodie Smitten's excellent site and found this cluster of articles and info on school attendance - often an issue for parents and certainly an issue within my own family over at least 2 generations.  Drilling down into the reasons can be quite emotional too. 

I was thinking at first that it might be more suitable for the Parents and Carers section but then, and especially after the school reports thread, I reconsidered.  Reading through some of this, like thinking about my old school reports, set off quite a bit of reflection on my own schooling, much of which damaged or distorted me and influenced my behaviours for some considerable time.  It's all still very much with me, in fact, like a voice in my head.  I was always able to attend school myself, but I'm thinking now that the cost might have been too great.  It also led to an awful lot of masking, some fairly negative behaviours and consequences for me, plus an almost neverending drive towards perfectionism and getting 10/10, no matter what I had to do to achieve it.  :(  

And yes, although it can be a large "turning circle", I'm on to it now, with more insight, I think.  :) 

If you feel OK to share here, how do you all feel about all of this? 

 www.jodiesmitten.co.uk/school-attendance

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  • I made an effort in school, but ended up resentful for my experience. 

    I was at a Secondary School, then did A Levels at a Grammar School. Ultimately, I tried too hard to Curry Favour with everyone. 

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  • I made an effort in school, but ended up resentful for my experience. 

    I was at a Secondary School, then did A Levels at a Grammar School. Ultimately, I tried too hard to Curry Favour with everyone. 

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