Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all. I'm Lauren and I'm new here. I strongly suspect that I'm autistic but no-one apart from my sister understands unfortunately.
I'm posting here today as I'd just like some advice!
I have acquired a new friendship group in the form of mothers from my children's school. At the beginning I was happy to meet up for cups of coffee or going on an occasional night out, but they're doing this really regularly now, sometimes 3-4 times a week, as well as seeing each other at the morning and afternoon school run. I'm not comfortable with doing this as I really love to be alone everyday. They're even talking about having group family holidays which makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.
They don't understand why I'm not interested in doing these things with them? They keep pressing me, insisting they must have done something wrong to me or I'm angry with them for something because I keep making excuses not to see them.
They say that I'm avoiding them, and in fairness I am avoiding them. It seems that the more they press me on the issue, the more i want to avoid them. I just really dont want to see people everyday. And anyone I ask for advice just doesnt understand! Does anyone here understand please? I do have 4 boys under 8 so I'm burnt out most of the time anyway...
Thank you!
You could say that you are just the kind of person who needs a bit more space, and you are happy to meet once or twice a week but more than that gives you social anxiety.
I've never had this problem as I waa always ignored by other parents on the school run. It was horrible, like being ignored in the play ground all over again. I solved this by working at my kids school, so now I don't have to stand around outside with everyone else.
I'm sorry to hear you were ignored! That's awfully cruel
Before making friends I had one or two friends there but we have joined with others to create this group. I am comfortable with having individual friends but the group makes me feel anxious.
I was happy to wait around for my children alone, in my own little bubble and say hi along the way. But they're constantly grouping up everyday and I'm finding myself isolating myself.